I asked my sister what she thought about it. I was curious about her opinion because she's been in the U.S. since she was about 5, got her college degree here, etc... and is basically well immersed into "American" culture. Well she basically had the same attitude as my mom! I was really surprised! She asked me if I was "wussing out" and if I was becoming a "gringa". I was really surprised. I didn't expect her to respond like that. (Which by the way, I'm the only one of all my siblings who actually speaks Spanish to her children and they are very fluent in it!)
We just had our first baby girl after having boys, and I'm a little torn on this. It seems to be big taboo in the Mexican community for a girl not to have earrings. I know that growing up, if I ever forgot to put mine on, my aunt would say, "Hola Nino", or "Hello Boy".
I'd like to know if anyone has anymore reasoning or insight to this cultural practice?
Anyway, when I was older (I lived in Indonesia), like 6 or so, I noticed that my friends ears were pierced, and I wanted to have my ears pierced, my dad didn't let me have it, but my mom did, so I got it, and I was wearing earings... for a couple of months, then I got sick of it, and stopped wearing it, and I didn't care when ppl said I wasn't a "real girl" or something like that. Thankfuly, the holes are closed (a couple of years later maybe)
Anyway, now I am in the US and I didn't pierce my dd's ears. My parents (of course) supported me and didn't give me a hard time about not doing it.
As far as I know, the only significance is pierced ears = girl, nothing else, really....
It does seem to be "just what you do".
But we haven't pierced 'em, and DD's almost 2; not sure if we will or not. I admit my position on this has softened quite a bit; but we survived the post-birth family harassment, plus I really just don't want to deal with sore ears on a toddler and portable choking hazards.
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My boys wear plaid flannel pants and plain long sleeve tees in lots of colors with cardigans most of the time, so no camo, or sports stuff, or drab olives oranges and navey here either.
I'm wondering about the degree of latitude I can give to my inlaws, wanting them to enjoy the baby as a girl and not to be insensitive while at the same time really wanting to stick by my own convictions about allowing my children's gender exploration without imposing any excessive gendering on them.
My husbands is from Puerto Rico and the thinking is the same. We are the first in his entire family to not pierce the little ones ears. He was fine with it but his family had a tough time and still will bring it up from time to time. I am not sure of the reasoning but I just thought I would let you know you aren't alone.
It wasn't the first or the last bochinche around me and our family's choices... they like me, but they don't understand me.
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I pierced dd's ears when she was 9 weeks. Why? Tradition, I suppose. No one pressured me to do it, no one asked me to do it.
Maybe it has something to do with the traditions and respect for certain jewelry that my mom instilled in me and my sister. Hard to explain, because it sounds like some of pps are making associations like earrings, pink, girly, stereotypical gendering: that somehow it forms a whole package designed to gender code—and therefore limit—girls and women.
That "package" does not accurately portray my experience growing up, and I don't expect it will characterize my daughter's either, just because she has pierced ears.
I respect that the "tradition" has no meaning for many Latina/os, but for me it did.
get her ears pierced when she was a baby, I believe
at three months although many people asked why we waited
However, she did pull them out so we are waiting
until she is a little older before putting the earrings back
My birth dd has her ears pierced and they were done at 2 weeks old. Honestly we didnt even think twice about it... its just what you do, kwim? Our younger dd was adopted and was not finalized until her 1st birthday. By that point I didnt feel comfortable piercing her ears... she can get them done if she asks.
Not having done it right away made me really think on it more though. Funny enough, my older dd looks very 'white' and the younger one very hispanic... so it seems to be the opposite in terms of culture.
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Personally, I got my ears pierced around 12 (right before my first concert... the Go-Go's/Flock of Seagulls ). I sort of liked how it was a special treat to go to the mall and get my ears pierced with my friends.
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I have a metal allergy and my ears (pierced when I was 16) took nearly a year to stop bleeding and being infected. I used every non allergy metal I could get my hands on but, even with all the antibacterial and healing agents as daily ritual they still did not heal properly. My ears have scar tissue in them for that reason. I had them pieced (second hole in each ear) when the first finally healed. I have since lost one of those because I went a week or so at some point without putting anything in it.
I tell everyone my daughter can choose to get her ears pierced (if SHE wants and we deem her responsible enough) when she is old enough to deal with the infections and daily pain. Perhaps I'll think about it when she is in middle school, if indeed she wants them. If she has the same problem that I do with piercings I don't want her to be miserable as a small child. Babies and children tend to rub, scratch, and pull at irratation.
Odd. Not sure where that tradition came from or if it is limited to Spanish and South American decent.