So from other moms who have BTDT any tips? I really want to make this work but I just feel so lonely sometimes.
Perhaps if you tell us a little more about your interests we could offer some suggestions. Do you have kids? What are your interests?
Are there any member of your dh's family that you can hang with? Any SILs or such that you can invite over for coffee or to go shopping or something?
How about taking a class, if you have the time? Yoga, art, whatever. Check in at the library and see if they have any free classes. You might end up making some friends at one of those. I met my closest friend here (we moved here in 2001) at a PTA meeting several years ago. OUr families are still super close.
I would say getting a job (if not for the money, but just for the social aspect of it), or taking classes is a wonderful idea. Would be good to get kids into situations that would require for them to interact with other kids, the sooner they pick up the language, the easier it will be on everybody.
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In many larger Canadian cities, there are cultural centres for various groups - the Chinese Cultural centre, Ukrainian, Greek etc. They sponsor movie nights, conduct classes in language and culture (dance, crafts, martial arts, sports etc.) If you are close to a centre for your country of origin, perhaps you could make some contacts there.
It is hard settling into a new place, but Canada had a large immigrant population and a long history of immigration. There are places to help - good luck finding them.
Oh and we've been here for 4 months.
Thank you all for the advice. now lets see if we survive our first winter.
Is there any one near you from the tribe section of MDC maybe some playdates even if it's in two languages will help your 6 yo learn the language.
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Obviously, you know your child best, and I'm sure she'll do wonderfully if you just continue on with what you're doing. Just don't cross school off the list, because it could work if you guys wanted it to.
I'm so sorry you're lonely. I remember that crushing isolation when I first moved to Latin America, and it certainly isn't fun. Hugs to you. It will get better though. Where are you, roughly? Have you checked the Finding Your Tribe part of MDC? I've never lived in a place where there are other MDCers, but if you're in part of the Maritimes, Ontario or BC, chances are good that there's a "real life" MDC contingent near you!
Hang in there.
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Yay that you are doing better! I second the suggestions to find a class or group just for you, to help meet people, but I thought I would pass along a thought that helps me when I get bogged down in loneliness and negativity about being here (I am from the US, and live in Japan). They say that culture shock (which isn't really necessarily about obvious cultural things, so your lonliness counts, I think) is usually at its worst when you have been in a place around 3 to 6 months, so hey - things will start looking up soon! And though there will always be highs and lows living in another country, the intensity of the highs and lows, and their duration, fades. The end is in sight! You will be back on an upswing soon - all the sooner if you can find something to do that is just for you. Hugs!