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Old 09-04-2008, 07:35 PM - Thread Starter
 
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The story is in the pictures for this multiculural family.
Very heartwarming!

Sheila, mother to William and Min Hee, wife of David
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My daughter has hair like this little girl and we too have a huge box of hair goodies....i love when i find a product that works. I see they had several bottles from "Carol's daughter" I love that product...i even use it on my hair. I think it's great that dad does her hair...he does a good job at it too.

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I love that!!
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My daughter has hair like this little girl and we too have a huge box of hair goodies....i love when i find a product that works. I see they had several bottles from "Carol's daughter" I love that product...i even use it on my hair. I think it's great that dad does her hair...he does a good job at it too.
I think it's wonderful that the dad does it! :
I have curly/kinky hair myself and I know it can be a challenge for parents who don't know how to handle it. Ask my Korean mom.

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This literally brought tears to my eyes. I am African-American and have had many a hair struggle over the years. My half Puerto-Rican daughter has hair not in the least bit like mine own, and her father lets her go out looking like there is no parent in the household who cares (I WOHM and he does not). He would only have to put in a fraction of the time this father does, but simply won't.

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honeybun....have you showed him how to pull it up in a pony tail...some dads have no clue and just leave it rather than trying to figure it out. Maybe you could sit him down one day while your doing it and walk him through the basics of a pony tail? Or even a scarf over her hair and tying it in the back? Once i showed my DP it was much easier and at least he tried. When your daughter gets around 7-8 years old she will start to try doing her own hair and it will be much easier then. Hugs mama.

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honeybun....have you showed him how to pull it up in a pony tail...some dads have no clue and just leave it rather than trying to figure it out. Maybe you could sit him down one day while your doing it and walk him through the basics of a pony tail? Or even a scarf over her hair and tying it in the back? Once i showed my DP it was much easier and at least he tried. When your daughter gets around 7-8 years old she will start to try doing her own hair and it will be much easier then. Hugs mama.
I have. To me, it's as simple as wrapping a rubber band around a handful of pencils. Around a newspaper if he had a paper route as a boy. I just don't get the difficulty. We're not asking for french braids or cornrows. Really, though, since her hair is curly, I think he's afraid of hurting her when he combs it. And we've been through that. Spray it with detangler or combo of water and conditioner (I keep both handy in spray bottles). Use the wide tooth comb. Then the finer tooth comb. Slap on hair band, and voila! He was watching intently the other night (I try to put it in a style that will last through the night in the event I leave before she rises in the morning) as I took each pony tail and twisted it around itself and secured with bobby pins. DD and I call this her "mouse ears" hairdo!

I'm just frustrated with what I see as a lack of willingness to try and a greater willingness to let her go out looking unkept. If this father - who had no involvement in creating his child's crown - can get it and take on the responsibility and bonding ritual of doing it, surely he can too.

The scarf is a good idea - thank you! Maybe I'll knit her some kerchiefs.

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that was such a sweet photo essay! It reminded me of when I was little. My Dad is AA but his side of the family has straight hair (Creole from Louisiana) and my mom died when I was just 7 months old. My Dad did my hair and my sister's til he remarried when I was 6 and the scene was not much different than this one

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Wow, her hair is gorgeous. I occasionally visit a long hair forum and there are ladies with similar hair who would be sooo jealous of her.
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