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I'm an introvert and sometimes quite self-conscious. Even before I had DS, I felt self-conscious about standing out as a foreigner. Speaking with DS in public (in a store or wherever) would bring attention to me that I didn't want. It was tough.
Finally, though, I got over it. Most people loved to hear DS switch back and forth between Dutch and English. Plus, people knew I was a foreigner anyway if, for example, I was in a store buying something and had to speak to the attendant/cashier, etc. .
Think of it this way, maybe they just accept that English is the language mama speaks so NATURALLY, she'd speak in that language to her daughter.
It's weird, I tend to speak to my DD more in Spanish when we're out and about in our English speaking community than at home - no one seems to bat an eye.
Texmati-- Knitter, Hindu, vegetarian, WOHM. Wife to superdad and mom to DS 24 months, and DD 8 months! .
Working Student Mama to a 4 y/o.
I guess I'm just looking for some encouragement from anyone who's btdt.
But when dd and I are out and about on our own I feel anxious doing it. It's a combination of my feeling rude using a language that excludes everyone else (there's only one other English speaker in our town) and my discomfort with being a foreigner in such a closed environment.
I just wanted to give you some encouragement from another point of view.
My dh is from India and we are living in the US (he is now a citizen). I WISH he had spoken his language with our kids. I wish I wish I wish so much! He was raised speaking both Tamil and English as a child in India. When he came to the US he was very fluent in English. We agreed that when we had children he would speak only Tamil to them. He then became self-conscious and stopped speaking Tamil outside when my first was an infant, and he finds it easier to speak to me in English at home since I don't know Tamil, so he doesn't transition well. As a result my kids don't know any Tamil at all other than what they picked up in India "What's your name? How old are you?" is about all they know. And they answer back in English. The kids can't even talk to their great grandmother in India which makes her very sad.
I am hoping that when they get older we can send them to India for entire summers and they will pick up more of the language and culture. I just wanted to encourage you to continue doing what you are doing, because I am living with what was not done and it's kinda sad. You are giving your child a gift that cannot be given later in life as naturally.
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