I was thinking, recently, that it's so much easier on kids who decide to go to college at 18. Even if they don't know what they want to do, it buys them four more years because they're "doing something" by being in college. When a child doesn't choose college, everyone wants to know what they're going to do with their lives. At least, that's been my experience, with an almost 18 y/o non-college bound kid.
"When I'm sad, I stop being sad and be AWESOME instead."
My 13yo wants to be famous... dancer, writer, musician, actress, but she also wants to teach (she hopes her fame won't distract her students)
My 11yo has wanted to be president since she was 4yo, but a couple years ago also expressed interest in becoming a midwife although she wonders how she can manage being on call for babies with a law practice (being a lawyer is part of her presidential master plan). I think her main focus is that she wants to protect everyone... the country, defendents, babies...
Dd (12) wants to be an Olympic show jumper and/or a graphic artist.
I think it buys time in other people's eyes. But, I would much rather not rush my kid's into college, but let them continue to have other life experiences if they want it. Like a service year or working or volunteering in different jobs that interest them. Personally, I went to college because it was expected and I feel like I "rushed" into picking a career before I had experienced enough outside of my home. I don't think it was a waste of time or anything, but I often think about how things might have been different even if I had just waited one year to go to college... just a thought.
Single Mom to 3 (12, 17 & 21) and .
LOL...I know how you feel I really did not want a dog, but I broke down and got one I had some very specific guidelines to follow - small, no shedding, couch potato dog....and we found one that fits those nicely. And hey, its not so bad. She loves that dog so much! I see how it enriches her life (and the other kids too), but I also see how MY quality of life would decrease if the dog was a pain in the a..!
My mother was a 'good' mother, and I lurve her and we get along well. But she never allowed pets, and I often felt sad about that as a child.
Of course, now I am a grown- up and I have 2 dogs, 3 cats, a rabbit, and turkey, plus chickens of various breeds. I don't hate my mother or anything. LOL
Funny thing is, my mother now has a tiny dog. Which she dressses up. The dog has a tutu. Her dh thinks it's the funniest thing. Everyone comes around...
DD (8) wants to be a biodynamic farmer. We eat pretty TF and support local farmers/ranchers and it has been a focus of hers for a while now. She has been in gymnastics this past year and wanted to be a gymnast (that farmed on the side) (ot, but her bio dad actually told her to stop homeschooling and go to ps because you *had* to in order to be a gymnast or farmer <end rant>) Anyway, the other day we were weeding in the garden and talking about how the farms we support work and she said, with a deep sigh, "screw gymnastics, I want to be a farmer" lol
DS(6.75) says "Artist Karate Person" He is very, very artistic, and quite good in his karate class, so....
DS(2) thought it was hilarious when I told him a kid on this thread wants to be an airplane (he *loves* airplanes!) and said he wanted too, as well.
Shelley, mom to dd 5/19/01, ds 9/06/02, and ds 4/01/07. Lost babe 4/09
DD 3 wants to be a princess . I haven't really pressed her on what she thinks a princess DOES all day.
Jill, wife to J, mama to O (10/03), MK (7/05), (7/09), A (5/4/10), and ***4***8***12***16***20***24***28***32***36*****
My 9 yo dd has wanted to be an actor since she was about 5, and has been in drama and theatre programs since then. She really likes it, and is pretty happy that it doesn't require any math.
We're Tiffani , Mark , Lucy (9/99) , Dexter (8/01) ,and Zachary Marvin (3/07) and Naomi Rose (6/09), home 11/10, by way of Ugandan adoption.
Ds (5) wants to be either an attorney like daddy or a University of Kentucky basketball player.
We never talk about what people do by summing it up in the label or title of their jobs, so our boys just talk about the things they'll do when they are able based on whatever skills they have yet to master to accomplish their goals. Their lists are long.
My list is also very long. Still.
Well, I've been absent for 8 months, and during that time, it turns out that I have completely transformed. You are all precious. Thank you for being here and sharing your lives. You are truly a gift. Jan. 23, 2012
Time will tell