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Old 02-26-2010, 05:58 PM
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I think you are mistaken. I have had many discussion with Sandra and have read her site and participated in discussion lists with her and I can say that does not advocate "stacking the deck"
What she advocates is support and partnership with of a child's interest.
Ok. And maybe she's changed her tune about some things, because I haven't been on an email list with her for at least 7 or 8 years... but I remember stuff about leaving around (strewing) materials that would fill in gaps so her kids would be more well-rounded, and stuff like that... which seemed to me like stacking the deck so that her kids would be more likely to do that stuff. Whether she believes it now or not, though, my point is that I find that kind of pointed leaving around of stuff to be insulting.

I know we've had conversations here about strewing vs. sharing, too... I espouse the latter, and I do think the distinction matters.

 
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Old 02-26-2010, 07:43 PM
 
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Proper parenting itself requires all these things, so if a parent of a publicly schooled child were not doing any of these things then they too would be more or less neglectful.
Not so. Plenty, if not most, parents disregard their children's preferences and interests because they think that's what good parenting is--that the parent knows what is best for the child.
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Proper parenting itself requires all these things, so if a parent of a publicly schooled child were not doing any of these things then they too would be more or less neglectful.
My point was that you can't be involved with your kids to that extent and neglectful of them at the same time.

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