you know me from your DDC
i'm 32 wks tomorrow and i am feeling more like a lazy whale every day. i have been struggling with the same guilt (see my thread on strewing if you like -- i may have forgotten to mention that i'm pg in it
i am trying to focus on the fact that i won't be pregnant forever, and that i will have more energy for "active" unschooling after the baby is out! granted, then i will have yet another
LO to care for, but at least i will be able to move faster and stand longer.
my children do seem to be keeping busy, better than ever, and perhaps it's because they have no other choice. i hear you about the heat and being homebound -- it has been a brutal summer and our social life has gone down the tubes because of it. and to top it off, we're SUPER BROKE. i keep seeing things i want to buy for them, wanting to take them places that cost money, and i have to stop and remind myself that we just can't afford it right now. my solution has been getting the house more organized (thank you, nesting), so that we have more opportunity to use things we already have, or bring back things that have previously been put away indefinitely due to clutter/clean-up issues.
it seems like you have relaxed standards for mess, and that's a good thing! that is one thing i am constantly working on; trying to say yes more often for the sake of the child's experiences and not focusing so much on the PITA mess that may follow.
watching mama grow a new baby is an awesome learning experience in itself, esp if they are interested in leaning more about the process. my 5yo daughter loves to feel baby kick ("dance"), talks to her baby sister every day, and tells me she loves her baby sister ALL THE TIME.
my 2yo watches birth videos with me on youtube, and asks for more. he knows that "baby comes out mama's 'agina".
my older boys aren't as interested, but i do make a point to show them my bare belly every now and then, and they also like to feel baby moving around in there. i have told them about how my boobs will get huge after the baby is born and the "white milk" comes back, and that their 2yo brother has been nursing on "new baby milk" (colostrum
) for about a month now. i am hoping that they will want to watch the birth, too, although i will respect their wishes regarding that when the time comes and they actually witness me in labor (although i have told them several times about how much hard work is involved in birthing a baby). i see it as an invaluable learning experience for them all.
i say don't feel guilty about not being able to do as much as you'd like. you won't be pregnant forever. as for winter outings, i say just schedule it all tentatively and do what you can. unless you are super sleepy or stressed, you may find it worthwhile to just sling that baby and go for it!! will your hubby (or someone else) be able to take them to things if you don't end up feeling like it? i would be much more inclined to take my children to a festival rather than try to duplicate the experience at home (like the gingerbread houses - yikes - although my 5yo son is already talking about "ginger-bread house day"
). let someone else do all the prep-work and clean-up.
i remember hauling my month-old twins to the medieval faire, me in full garb (with excellent cleavage
), and nursing them in a gypsy's camp chair behind the tents or inside one of the costume shop dressing rooms. talk about the continuum concept! it was awesome, and of course we ran in to all kinds of long-lost friends and were able to show off our babies to them.