I'm sure there has been threads about this before, so feel free to PM me and or show me a link.....
My dh is very open to homeschooling, he thinks it is great. But he does not want me to do unschooling....well, in our case we would have to deschool first.
My children want to return to public school next year, but I left the option open for homeschooling...and I am biting my tongue WAITING for them to say they are ready, so is dh!!!!!
BUT--When the time has come (which I have faith that it will) I want to deschool/unschool. Dh wants me to have a schedule/curriculum. For some reason, I feel around October my children will be ready to be at home....I hope.
Any thoughts on this, I want to be ready, and try to help dh see the great benefit of unschooling....
TIA mamas & papas!!
I have not BTDT so maybe someone else will have more ideas for you. My husband is curious how we can homeschool without workbooks and 'School time'. My oldest would start K this fall and I think he half expects me to 'start homeschooling' in Sept. I am hoping we can show him how unschooling works. If it became an issue I would consider trying to use a curriclum for a short time, because I think my husband is a smart guy and I know he would appreciate my considering/respecting his ideas. I would do this, for a short time, and I think he would eventualy agree with me I would try anything to be able to homeschool. I hope this dosent sound to wishy-washy.
Will he read any homeschool books? Maybe John Holt, Teach Your Own.
Michelle , 20+ years with a wonderful DH
Mama to two boys, 12 and 10
I was also thinking, that if dh stands his ground, maybe I could just sit with the kids an hour a day so that we could do some kind of work, and then let the rest fly out the window. And I could try to make that hour fun. I just don't want dh to spend $$$ on a curriculum that I don't want or have plans to use that much.
Plus Valerie aka Boysrus lives close by and we get together---maybe she could help me with ideas to pursuade dh.
Thanks for the great advice--I just ordered some books from amazon, now I'll have to go back and check on that book :LOL
Also have you talked to your kids about what a good compromise for them would be? Of they are excited about going to school they might like the structure and it might be scary for them to think of themselves as just not having anything to do all day etc. .. . Perhaps it would help them decide to stay home if they knew that some of what they know would remain the same. i was one of those freaks who cheered every fall when the structure of school rolled around. I hated the here and thereness of summer break and longed for school. most of it.
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Or you could get a "real" curriculum that is laid-back.
Sonlight is basicly a lot of great, real books that you read and discuss. It covers everything. www.sonlight.com You can order a print catalog.
Or maybe your DH would be happy if you just picked a method, yk? You can say we are "doing Charlotte Mason" or "doing unit studies" or whatever so it looks like you have a plan.
mommy to Charlotte 3 and Grace 8mo
I loved school as a child as well!
|However, I wonder if your husband would be more at ease if you appeared to have some goals for your children by the end of the "school year."|
Originally Posted by baskina
I do not know if this belongs on this thread but here gose. I am very familer with homeschooling as I was and am planning to consider homeschooling my children depending on their needs, but I am hearing more and more about unschooling. I would like to know what exactly is it and how do you make sure your children continue to learn the basics with it............. Very interested in this so If some one would share with me I would apriciate it.
mommy to Charlotte 3 and Grace 8mo
My kids have been ps, prvate school, and homeschool & now onto college and deschooling was not needed for my oldest at all going back and forth to home from ps, my next took some time but he withdrew during a conflict during the school year in 1st grade.
mom to ds16, ds10, ds7, dd 5
As for your kids wanting to go to school -- well, every year I was excited to start school too. There is something about the fall air, the sense of expectation and something different happening in life, changes in the cycle that make you want to go out and do something new! And for the first couple of years of school I wasn't disappointed, because there was a lot of play and creativity interspersed with and used as a basis for learning. Eventually, though, the increased focus on learning as work, and the debilitating effects of lack of freedom, the "lord of the flies" tendencies of childhood society, and the inability of the system to tailor instruction to my needs, all made school seem less and less appealing and eventually I was routinely lying about being sick in order to try to avoid going. Not all kids have that experience, or have needs that aren't met through school, but I suspect the majority do, and if that's the case for your children, you won't need to convince them to stay home!
One thing I found is that my dh came around to unschooling fairly slowly. When we started out he said we will "try" this homeschooling for a year and we can always put the kids back in school. Now, I knew I that wasn't going to happen, but he needed to see how this "experiment" of homeschooling was going to work. (btw, that was over 15 years ago, and we have "graduated" 3 children on to college and the working world since then!)
We started out with spending the morning exploring math and phonic, science and history together, through books, maps, etc. and spent the afternoons reading or exploring nature, museums, and the world around us. The kids love reading and so we enjoyed reading and discussing many of the classics.
So, after the first year, things looked pretty good. The rhythum of our days was pretty well established and I relaxed what little structure we had, which was minimum to begin with. Every year in Aug. I still write out a plan of instruction (something our state requires anyway) which is losely what I expect we will learn and explore in the comming year. Kind of a syllubus. It helps me to focus on the things I think the kids will like to do, but is very much subject to change as the wind blows. It mostly helps dh (who is a music teacher in the ps) to see how what we do (0r don't do) fits into the language of the educator.
Dh has come along way....he is very much a homeschooling/unschooling advocate, although he dosen't like the term unschooling. He thinks it sounds too much like unlearning, which of course it is the opposite of!
So, be patient with your dh and your children, they will see the benifits of the unschooled mind in time. Try to put some of what you do into "educational terms" and that may help to ease those fears of "doing nothing" so all of you can relax and enjoy life and learning together.
I got a lot of great advice here. I need to take it slow with the kids and with dh...and thinking of a different name to call it, well..I like it.
I liked reading other's experience with this...I just may have success!
|Not all kids have that experience, or have needs that aren't met through school, but I suspect the majority do, and if that's the case for your children, you won't need to convince them to stay home!|
I also think that the term Home Education has the implication that learning is going on in the home, rather than the term homeschooling that implys that schooling is going on, or the term unschooling that simply implys that no schooling is happening. After all, learning is what it is about, not simply avoiding schooling.
I went to an office supply store and got two teacher's daily plan books for about $7 each. I wrote the days of the week across the top, and subject categories down the side. If the kids asked me about the upcoming presidential election, I entered that discussion under "Social Studies.": discussed presidential election/electoral college, etc.
If my kids played Monopoly, or Life or chess that goes under "Math." So did cooking, building activities, counting their money, grocery shopping, purchasing their own treats and toys, going to the bank. Since we read everyday - and now they read on their own everyday, I jotted down the books we were reading together, and the books they read on their own: Often reading books can go in two categories: Language Arts, and Science, or Language arts and History. My kids play outside daily, or go swimming, or skating, or whatever - P.E.!, if they sketched, or painted, or had their dad show them some new chords on the guitar - that went under Art and Music.
And around here, science exploration is huge! We're always learning about animal habitats and adaptations, studying the natural environment, doing simple experiments, etc. We're docents at the Natural History museum too.
Then, after you and your husband see all the amazing things your children are doing, and have put their activities into "educationese" long enough - you can throw away the notebooks if you want to. (Or not, sometimes it's fun for the kids to look in the notebooks and see all the things we've done.). Personally, I go back and forth between keeping a notebook, and blowing it off for long periods of time. My kids think they're pretty cool, though.
Realizing the educational value in all activities is important but not formal enough to convince everyone. I'm sure you can find a compromise that will work - and if you're doing the work it will all be up to you anyway.
it is nice to have the scrapbooks of the things the children have done and learned also for them to see the growth in their writing and recall the places & things they have enjoyed. This year I am calling them scrapbooks or journals, not 'recordkeeping'. Children have personal 'nature' journals also and spiral artbooks that we glue in their favorite stuff they make or write regularly. When Grandma comes they love to sit down and share the stories they have written with her and show her the pics they drew.
So many great ideas!!