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#1 of 6 Old 01-29-2005, 11:14 PM - Thread Starter
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ive got this great group of friends who are all wanting to explore alt education for their kids. several are into the idea of unschooling but have these fears specific things like will my kids get taken away? how will he/she get into college? how will he/she learn everything they need to? i too am sometimes plagued by these fears. and then i think about what i learned in school. most of what i learned amounts to negative social interaction, as a matter of fact fear is probably the thing i learned most of. and then i can think a bit more clearly about my direction. i assume many of us have these fears at first. how do you deal with them and when are they abated if ever?

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I think it's pretty common to have fear at first. But, like most things, we fear what we don't understand. So for me, the key has been to learn as much as I can. I listen carefully to those with older kids or more unschooling experience--their lives and kids are testimonials that help remove doubt and fear. (Dar, UnschoolinMa, Joan, and some others here are wonderful examples.)

Joining some Yahoo groups has been enormously helpful. Reading at unschooling.com and sandradodd.com has been helpful.

I have heard a lot of people talk about taking that leap of faith in their own families and seeing miracles happen--I think that's the best way, of course--try it and see if it works. Can't argue with those results, right?

Many people say the fear lessens and turns into occasional doubting. Then the moments of doubt come less frequently as time goes on (and they see that unschooling works).
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I have to say that along with people in my community who have/are following this route, participating here on MDC boards, that *READING* has been the most empowering experience for me with regard to US. Our local library just happens to have many wonderful books on HS/US. WHEW! I started with "The Homeschooling Book of Answers" by Linda Dobson. It has a question/answer format and answers are given by a HUGE panel of people who HS/US. Some much territory covered (all the questions you bring up and more), and lots of different perspectives from those who have been there and are there currently. Many of my fears (state requirements, college, etc.), where tamed with the reading of just this one book. From there I read a ton more and anytime I start to get a little nervous I head to the library. Anymore, I only get a few pages in and I put the book down. "AAh yes, that's why I'm US and I can't imagine I could take any other route."

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I recommend trying to make it to a conference if you can. The next one is in St. Louis, Missouri. I went to Peabody and it was really wonderful just watching the kids--how they spoke, how they acted, what they did and plan to do etc... It was nice to see how they turned out as a result of growing up this way.
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The fears are common, and normal at first definately. I suggest reading tons of stuff about homeschooling and of course focus on reading things about unschooling. I like "The Unschooling Handbook" by Mary Griffiths and stuff by John Holt. I enjoy www.unschooling.com but some people do not care for it there

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