I'm looking for the same info/articles/sites. My brother and his wife struggled with the decision to circ their son, and ended up circing him. At the time, it never even occurred to me that they would even consider circing, or I would have done my best to convince them not to do it! I was shocked and horrified when I found out they circed him. Then my brother said if they had it to do over they wouldn't have circed him, and I said, "So if you have another boy you won't circ him, right?" and my brother said "Of course we'll circ him! We can't circ one and not the other!" Again, I was horrified. In fact, I think I was even more horrified by this revelation. I mean, to actually KNOW that you made the wrong decision, and then to insist on doing the same wrong thing to future sons just for the sake of being consistent??? Ever since then, I've been trying to come up with a way to talk them out of it, but they are both terribly stubborn. My brother said the circed boy would look at the intact boy and say 'what the hell is that???' I know that they still feel the same way, because my SIL recently stayed with us to have her 3rd child (they live in Africa and she came to the States to use the hospital -- thankfully the 2nd and 3rd were both girls) and when I was sitting in the waiting room with her at one of her prenatal appointments she was reading through the paperwork and she was complaining about the high cost of circ. Later, my mother said something to her about how she hoped my SIL wouldn't circ if/when she had another boy, and my SIL said, oh, I think my husband would have something to say about that, and I wouldn't make that decision without him. Then she said "What are we supposed to say to our first son, if we circed him but then we don't circ our second son??" It absolutely amazes me that someone could do such a thing to their second son just to be "fair" to the first son. I mean, the question they should be asking is, what would they say to their second son if they circed him just to be fair to his brother?? Seems like it would be much harder to justify the the second son's circ to the second son than it would be to justify the second son's intactness to the first son. I told her that she could tell the first son that they made what they thought was the best decision based on the information they had at the time, and that when they didn't circ his brother they were making the best decision based on the information they had at THAT time. She totally rejected that argument.
There are other issues, as well. My brother is circed (my father's decision, that my mother has had to live with). In retrospect, I can't believe I didn't consider the possibility that they would circ my nephew, since I knew that my brother is circed. I'm sure he's insecure and in denial that there is anything wrong with his penis and wants his sons to look like him. Also, my SIL says she wouldn't want to have sex with a man who wasn't circed, and she's apparently assuming that her son's future partner will feel the same way. My partner is intact, and I countered that I wouldn't want to have sex with a circed man. That comment backfired, and my mother later criticized me for making it. I said that intact penises are cleaner and more hygienic, and she said, but circs are done for cleanliness and hygiene, and I said yes ironic isn't it. She totally rejected that argument, too.
Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry! I didn't mean to hijack the thread or write such a book! I probably should have just said "I'm looking for the same articles/info/sites." I appreciate anecdotal accounts, like the one Laura gave, but I don't think it's enough to convince my stubborn brother & SIL. I've already told them that there are always worse psychological consequences from circing a boy than there are from leaving one intact (and that, in fact, I have NEVER heard of a bad psychological outcome from leaving a boy intact), but they simply won't believe me.