well, here's my novel:
I lost my virginity at 15 to an intact guy with a HUGE penis...I didn't know he was intact until later. It hurt, but it was my 1st time, so i didn't know the difference. Future boyfriends were all circ'd and smaller than my 1st. And sex always hurt with them, too. I never seemed to make enough lube, they always pounded away at me anyway, and i would be sore the next day, and even numb!! comparing my 1st experience to the rest, it was actually the best, b/c it was more tender, gentle, and most of all, he took it slow! I had to know why...then I began to ? circ (i was 17, so all this happened in 2 years...i was a promiscuous teen
) I decided that it will be up to my kids if they want it done b/c it's their body, and they have to live with that decision, not me.
I met my XH at 18, and discovered that he had a really bad circ. he was circ'd at birth, then circ'd again as a toddler to fix his "uneven" penis. He had some terrible scars, they were awful to look at. We had sex maybe once a month, if he was lucky. I just couldn't deal with the pain and the pounding...then we divorced after less than a year.
I met my current DP way back in high school, and we had always been friends...we hooked up during my divorce. His skin was loose, but i could tell he was cut. I just assumed he had a loose circ. But even so, he was the 1st lover to give me an orgasm vaginally, and the 1st to not give me any pain. After we were more comfortable talking about sensative things, he brought up circ, how he thought it was wrong, and how he was angry about being cut. then he told me about restoration. He was more nervous talking to me about it b/c he didn't want me to think he was a nutcase for doing it. I didn't believe him at first, i didn't think it was possible. but it is.
He's been restoring a total of 5 years...we've been together for almost 3 years now, and his progress has been amazing! he went from a tight painful shaft to loose, wrinkled skin in 2 years. Since we've been together, his foreskin has grown to cover his glans completely when soft, and covers half the glans when erect and pulled forward. We love it!
Our sex life, even though it was already great, has improved by leaps and bounds. the more progress he seems to get, the better the sex seems to be for BOTH of us. BTW~~those "lube" problems i was having are not a problem anymore...since we've been together, (TMI) i often end up sleeping in a puddle when we're done, LOL!
DP is more satisfied with his penis now, but he is still very unhappy knowing what he has lost, and knowing that there is alot he will never get back. He still gets angry, too. if he could find the DR that did it to him, well, he'd be in alot of trouble.
here's alot of info in another thread about restoring:Restoring ???
and about this~~
|He has asked about restoring but thinks he's cut too tight. ANd he has a painful vein. He shudders to think about how to pull the skin over that vein.
I dont' think anyone is cut too tight to restore. If it hurts, then you're being too vigorus/aggressive with it. It's a slow process, but well worth it.
HTH and if you need any info, just ask!