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Since I knew I would never circ if I did have kids I really didnt think about bringing it up to dh. I guess I just assumed he would feel the same way I did.
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it came up cause dp is cut, and he is the first i have "had" that is, and i didn't know what to do with it!
i feel that no child should ever have genitals cut for a non-medical reason.
and dp agrees with me.
(although he is more sympathetic to religious reasons, which are fortunately not applicable to us)
I became much more strongly against it later, when I found this board. Luckily, he has no problem with leaving any future sons intact. His current opinion is a lot like my old one, no big deal, but no reason to do it.
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lol end of discussion!
When DH and I met, I had decided that I was NEVER having children. So it was a COMPLETE non issue.
but...After a few life changing events, I decided now or never. At 37 years old, I gave us a 6 month window to TTC (I wouldn't even call it that...we just threw away the BC and decided to see what would happen.) If I wasn't pregnant by my 38th birthday 6 months away I was getting my tubes tied for my birthday. Needless to say, I was pregnant 3 weeks later
I don't think the circ issue even needed to be discussed...when DH and I met, I already had 4 anti circ bumper stickers on my car and was already dropping pamphlets in baby isles and in baby sections of bookstores (much to his embarrasement) and we had discussed the possibility of him restoring. The subject was never even discussed in reguards to our DD even before we knew her sex.
It was a really important conversation for me to have with him before we actually started trying for a baby.
hehe, I had only known dh 3 months when I got pregnant... but it didn't register to talk to dh because i had been told i was infertile, and i was on bc
like kriket said, i didn't think to talk about it, just like FGM... no one would do that to my kid
most of the men in my family are intact, and i have a strong grandma that was proud of protecting her boys (after a c-section in the "good ole days," she snatched up my uncle and stood on the bed screaming at the docs not to cut on her baby!)...
Fast forward a few months when I discovered MDC. I saw a post on "New Posts" in this forum and clicked on it. That's when I started doing research and actually got fairly passionate about it. I was just so apalled that I had never even considered not circing during my first pregnancy. I even did a presentation in nursing school on the reasons to keep baby boys intact.
When I asked dh about circ, he said "Of course we'll circ if we have a boy next. I want our son to look like me." I presented him with information and he soon decided for himself that we would NEVER circ. I was so proud and happy. He's now even more of an intactivist than me
Me: DH: DD: DS1: DS2:
I am presuming I would have done the same sort of research if I'd gotten married to an American. Even then over my dead body would I let that sort of mutliation happen to my child.
When I was pg I started researching and quickly changed from, its something that everyone does, to why the heck would anyone do that if there's no reason...
Harder discussion to deal with religious reasons, but dh gave in and doesn't have regrets... just not his 'issue'.
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I got over that and after being together for 5 1/2 years I am pregnant with a boy and this IS becoming an issue. Both of my sons are intact and my DH knew that, but he isnt really open to the idea of his son staying intact. I wish we would have talked about it more before. I don't think I would have not married him, just maybe really considered what it meant to have a child with him. But then again, I was sure we weren't having kids.
I am sure this will be a battle in our home until our son is born. I will win though, I am pretty sure of that
I guess I didn't really consider someone really would want to. A relative of mine was severely circ damaged. We don't circ in my family.
I was shocked when dh thought we would, he admitted he had "no real argument in favor" and we didn't circ our son.
So we had the conversation, but not really about what we would do with our children. However, it was resolved pretty easily. We touched on it a little while I was pregnant but not seriously, but then at the hospital, I sat straight up, pointed to the doctor and said "don't circumcise him" as soon as they said 'its a boy!'. After working so hard to free DS from my body, that was that! <3
So, we ended up with two intact sons!
I married an intact guy who agreed w/ me.
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