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#1 of 8 Old 12-23-2003, 12:48 PM - Thread Starter
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Just wanted to thank everyone again. I've decided not to let this guy operate on DS regardless of whether or not I can get his ped to observe. I just don't trust him.

Since he's not in any immediate danger, I'm going to continue to explore other options - same for his adenoids; I'm not sure that he won't end up with them out, but I'm going to give it a bit more time. I'll continue on an elimination diet and try to get the money together for some really good HEPA air filters. I'm also going to call the ENT that I felt very good about and ask for his recommendation for another urologist.

Meanwhile, I will be writing a letter of complaint to Children's Hospital about this urologist. I hate to think that other little boys might be coming in his door intact and walking out again circumcised simply because *he* is obviously not comfortable with an intact penis.

Thank you all for your input - you can't know how much you've helped me. I had been feeling absolutely panicked about all of this, and am now feeling more calm and confident.
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#2 of 8 Old 12-23-2003, 12:54 PM
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Good for you. It's good to know you're comfortable with your decision.

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Congratulations! It will do a whole lot for your self confidence in standing up for the rights of your child.

I had to when my son was 12 yrs. old, growing like a "weed" and came down with Osgood-Shlotters(sp? I am sure I totally butchered that one).
Anyway, to make it short, on the day of exam I happened to come upon an article that explained the whole thing. So I was ready. All I needed was for the specialist to mention that disease. So when he did and started to inform me on the surgery my son would need on both knees, I informed him about EVERYTHING that I knew about it. (He had no clue the information had come from a magazine in his waiting room just 20 min. earlier.)

After accusing me of child neglect, I charged him of tying to make money out of a disease that will basically cure itself. He called the nurse in and she asked me to leave.

In the car I fell apart. I bawled and trembled like a leaf in a storm. But my son thanked me over and over for not having to go through a surgery. Within a month of 'time out from most sports', he was cured for life!

I learned so much that day. After that I only wanted a doctors opinion. I did the research, I decided on the medicine, I called ALL the shots. And just imagine, I have three kids that survived it all, and one of them is now himself a surgeon.

Anyway, good luck with your research.
And again, congratulations!
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Somewhere out there there is a urologist who is comfortable with intact little boys...

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I am also very glad to hear of your decision. Like you, I felt very uncomfortable with that guy.

In my research on circumcision, my opinion of medical professions has taken a 180 degree turn and now I am highly suspicious of them. It's not that I believe them to be intentionally malicious, just that I don't believe many of them continue their education throughout their career as they should. I also believe that many, if not most, shoot from the hip on a lot of things that they are not well educated about.

I was very worried that this guy was in this category and was worried that he would go against your wishes and do both unnecessary surgery and circumcise your son as well. Since your son is not in pain and not in imminent danger, I think it is a very wise thing to do to keep working on other alternatives even if it is only surgery by a different physician.

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#6 of 8 Old 12-25-2003, 01:41 AM
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Good for you!

Great story bjbjd

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It's not that I believe them to be intentionally malicious, just that I don't believe many of them continue their education throughout their career as they should.

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BJBJD,its very interesting you mentioned the knee disease that I wont even try to spell.I too had the same thing when I was your son,s age.Fortunately my childhood doctor prescribed treatment similar to the magazine.I just had to avoid running and a few other activities for a month or 2.After that I was fine.Thank god you happened to read about in time before you gave permission for your son to have surgery that would not only have been painful but also would probably have added additional complications.
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Good For You !!

Any Type Of Surgery Has Risks Of Complications Or Of Having Unsuccessful Results.

Anesthetic By Itself Has Its Own Set Of Risks.
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