This is my first post on MDC, though I've been lurking for a couple of months now
I am currently pg with #2, who we found out was a boy at our u/s.
We are planning a home birth (DD was born in the Hospital), with a wonderful Midwife who brought up the issue of circ shortly after out u/s.
I just took it for granted that we would do it, after all "everybody does it" and "it's the right thing to do"
So she gently suggested that we look into it further and handed me the Fleiss article.
This caused me to really dig in and do some major research (we're talking HOURS here!)
I blew through alot of my own predjudices (eewww! isn't it gross not to circ??, etc
: ), and am now extremely passionate in my belief that circ'ing is wrong.
Ok, now to my question: I have a friend who is due just 8 days after me (I am almost 35 wks, and due on Feb 7th), and they are also having a boy.
My problem is this: I HAVE to talk to her about this issue. All of their family (I believe) have circ'ed their sons, and I'm sure she is also just taking it for granted.
So, I want to be sure that she has all the info needed to make an informed decision. However, I only ever see her at church, and her family is always close by...I'd really rather it be a private conversation so as to avoid a heated discussion.
She also has a fairly strong personality, and I'm more on the quiet side.
A few things I've thought of are to write her a letter, just pull her aside and ask if they are planning on circ'ing, then offer her a printout of Fleiss' article, or inviting her to lunch, saying that I have something I've discovered that's really been on my heart to tell her.
So, what do you all think would be best??? And what should I say to her so that she doesn't become too defensive (as much as is possible on my part).
I'm sorry this is SOOOO long! I've really been agonizing about this lately, and it's getting down to the wire...I want her to have plenty of time to talk this over with her DH.
Oh, btw, this is their first baby.
Anyway TIA sooo much, I know this question gets asked alot on here...and if you've read this whole novel, thanks for sticking in there, lol!:LOL