Does anyone have experience with 2 boys that are different From each other? Do they notice? Do they care? Please help!
I'm not in your situation but my husband is circed while my son is intact. My son has never noticed and it's not an issue for my DH or my DS. They are never standing around comparing penises, you know? Now I realize it might be different w/ two sons, maybe they'd bathe together, but if it comes up, just say your oldest had to have surgery due to a medical problem and that's why they look different. People have surgery all the time to correct medical problems and often have scars or altered limbs, etc. because of it. I'm sure that would be something both a circed and intact son could understand and appreciate without question.
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There are so many other ways they are different that are far more visible - hair color, eye color, freckes vs. no freckes. No one suggests attempting to alter any of these things so that the brothers won't "look different."
Really, it's not a big deal.
That's my instinct about it. I just want "proof", I guess, for my husband, from other parents that have successfully navigated this issue.
did you have to explain to the boys? or just tell them everyone is different? was there ever an issue for the circed son as to why him and not the other?
If and when it comes up, you just explain that when you know better, you do better and if your circumcised child wants to restore when he's older, he has that option.
My ds is intact and my dh is circed, and the issue of matching hasn't come up. That may be an adult hangup, but kids don't notice and/or mind one bit. Any more that my ds cares that his eyes are brown and dh's eyes are blue (and that's something that strangers can actually see and observe!)
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