i gotta say i'm with annmarie, victim or not, it's no excuse to do it to the next generation. i will never understand the rationale of 'it's my husband's decision'. after i had the baby in *my* womb for er, 8 months & a week
, i would never say, 'oh, go ahead and hurt my baby, as long as YOU take all the responsibility for it.' i'm the mama, & the buck stops here.
that's why no circs get done without the mother's signature (hopefully; just not those 'accidental' ones...) you cannot pretend it is no longer your responsibility just because you chose to make it not so- that baby's safety is your responsibilty (and your husband's!), and if he doesn't know what's what, i'd make sure he found out. if my husband was adamant that we cut off his foot, would i say, 'ooh, whatever he thinks- he's really set on it.'? would you whine to cps, 'but he really insisted. i washed my hands of it, & it was his deal. oh, i *signed* the contract to the butcher to chop it off, of course, but it was his responsibility. 'cause i said so. not my fault.'?
i am sorry deep in my heart for every man who was mutilated without his consent; my pity stops at excusing the desire to mutilate their babies. thank god my dh can feel the hurt of what was done to him without wanting to justify it by continuing the 'tradition'. bless his heart, i think i may go wake him up & give him (cough) solace.