I feel pretty shaken right now, because I looked for an intact supportive and breastfeeding friendly doctor before ds was born. She's never tried to retract his penis before but today at his 2 year check up, she did. I said "What are you doing? Stop that! I don't want you to touch his penis". She said "It's OK, I'm not forcing it. Most boys are retractable by 4, and soon he should start playing with it in the bath tub". I said most boys may be retractable by 5 or 6, but many are not until puberty and some even beyond, and it doesn't matter! There is no need to check! I finished with "No one should retract his penis but him".
He's OK, his foreskin has partially loosened (he plays with it on his own), and she didn't cause him pain or bleeding or anything. I was just shocked that she did this when it's not necessary.
I will be sure to say "Don't retract his penis" right up front next time. I don't even have anyone to talk to about this because it seems that most males around here are circed! So, I'm glad this board is here. Most information I have about the intact penis has come from this site!