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#1 of 7 Old 02-10-2004, 12:41 AM - Thread Starter
 
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A friend of mine just found out she is having a baby boy today. I haven't talked to her yet, but a mutual friend informed me. I can't even be happy for her right now, because I know she will circumsize him. I have friends who have circed their boys and don't have this sadness, and almost animosity toward them. I am still planning on giving her anticirc info, not that it will make a difference. I am upset that he is gonna be cut, but I am also upset about feeling this way. I don't think it is healthy to obsess over someone else's unborn child like this. I can't help it, though, maybe I just need my own time to greive and heal. Nevertheless, I am sickened that she and her husband can't see the stupidit in their choice. Maybe, tomorrow I will feel better about the whole thing. I know they are deeply excited to have a boy, and I do want to be happy for them, I just don't get it.

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All you can do is try. I totally know where you're coming from. I obsessed for months about my SIL's baby (turned out to be a girl) and I've got several others, born and unborn, to obsess and stress out about too.

I think having had a baby boy myself, and seeing how perfect he is intact, and knowing how much pain circ causes,and how much physical and sexual damage, I want to spare other baby boys I know or will know that pain.

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I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. I go through those feelings whenever I learn someone I know is expecting a boy(or if they don't know the sex). My best friend had a boy, I knew they would circ and I never felt a moment of joy for them. Nice friend eh?

When she had her daughter and I had my son, we had invited each other to the hospital to see the babies the day after the births. With her son, I got no invite because that was his "surgery" day. I was at work on that day and felt very sad for the little guy.

Good luck with your friend, I hope you do better than how I did with mine.

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I know EXACTLY what you are talking about. I go through those feelings whenever I learn someone I know is expecting a boy(or if they don't know the sex).
I could have written that myself.

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I could have written your post, exactly. I have 3 PG friends right now that willl circ if they have boys. One of them is def having a boy. I couldn't be happy when I heard it was a boy. I haven't seen her yet, but I know I will HAVE to bring it up. She has 2 kids already, the oldest is a circ boy.

My feelings of her being a half heartedly trying, giving up the first week type breastfeeder was bad enough when I found out he was PG again. This on top of it makes me so sad. She is very much a follower and will probably not take in one sentence I say about it.

I know it isn't right to obsess like this, but I can't help but envision her poor baby being hurt and robbed of his full body. I think the obsession has a little to do w/ the fact that there is still time to do something. The damage has not yet been done. I feel like there is still a chance to change their minds. Then after they go ahead and still have it done, I can't help but judge them. :
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Ditto! I could have written all your posts word for word. It's so sad.

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I don't think it is healthy to obsess over someone else's unborn child like this.
Yes, your feelings are quite healthy. What's being done to these babies is unhealthy!
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