Every salesman and politician knows that by carefully selecting and using words, you can guide your listener into a false understanding of the issue. Uncircumcised and uncut are just a couple of the words used to misconsture the true facts. Uncircumcised and uncut send the message that the man missed out on getting what he should have recieved, that he was denied what all others recieved, that he was short changed. This is denial by the parents, the man and all others who have had a hand in the genital reduction of a child. By putting it back on the victim, it lets them off scott free.
Your husband's discomfort with the word "intact" shows that he has not yet delt with what happened to him. In his subconscious, he knows the truth. However, his conscious and defensive mind forces him to deny it. The word "intact" is offensive to him because it forces him to confront what he already knows and he wants to avoid that internal confrontation. It's painful to him on many levels. It's painful to know that he could have been more sexually. It's painful that the most provate and intimate part of his body was violated and that he had no say in the matter. It's painful that he carries the mark of this violation on his body for life and it's painful that his very own mother allowed and even actively participated in this violation.
The pro-circumcisionists are well known to tell men that are not happy with their circumcisions that they "have issues" and should get psychological counseling to work through these issues. However, on deeper inspection of the issue, it becomes abundantly clear where the issues are and they certainly are not with the men who are unhappy with the violation of what should have been the most private and sacred parts of their body.