My kids go to a group of peds that I really liked... until... at my son's 2 month appointment, I watched in horror as the dr began to try and retract him and I SCREAMED "DO NOT RETRACT HIM!" as I lunged forward towards the dr. He froze and was taken quite by surprise and said, "I would never do that! I was just looking at the opening!" I couldn't think on my feet quickly enough to say "That IS retraction, and there's no medical need to see the ureter." I just got my baby back in my arms and the exam was over. He DIDN'T retract, I stopped him in time, but I was sick over it almost happening. Then, I had him in for another check and I insisted that the diaper stay on (different dr). She asked me why, and I told her, "I've had issues with other drs in the group attempting to retract him, and I'm just not comfortable with his diaper being removed. There is no need." She then asked, "Is he uncircumcised?" Yes, he's also lobotomized. *grimace* I said, "He's intact and there's no reason to remove his diaper." She obliged. THEN went on to tell me that as he gets a little bigger, urine can collect in the opening, and I should very gently pull the foreskin towards his body and clean the urine, or risk infection. ??
I'm appalled, and I just can't think on my feet quickly enough to come up with a reply, so I'm looking for something to say BEFORE the exam starts and to educate this group of drs on proper intact care. Something that will grab their attention and possibly make them go do a little research on their own. However, I'm not one to really stand up and be nasty, so I'm looking for the gentlest, but firmest way to get my point across, or I WILL be finding a new pediatrician. The head ped in the group told me before my son was born that not circ'ing leads to HIV and UTIs. I let this go, and vowed not to let my son see that dr. I really do like the group, for every other reason but this. What can I say, and how do I phrase it so as not to be nasty, just to be firm and informative? It really does blow my mind that there's so much misinformation out there.
Our clan: Me (25), Dh (29), dd (6/19/08) and ds (10/2/09) :