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The Case Against Circumcision > "He's going to be circumcised, right?"
erin23kate's Avatar erin23kate 09:14 PM 01-21-2010
I've actually had this question from quite a few people. My precious baby boy is due in March .

I always answered this question seriously and quietly, but I tried something different with a cousin (I was feeling a little "snarky"):

HER: "He's going to be circumcised, right?"
ME: "No, but we are going to remove his big toenail."

After the obscene look of horror, I went on to talk about how toenails are gross, hard to keep clean, and removing it would prevent fungal infections and the potential it would have to be painfully removed in adulthood. Finally, I pointed out that my husband is missing his big toenail and I wanted the baby to "look like daddy."

She stared at me for a while, said "You could have just said NO" and then added.... "I guess you sorta do have a point... I never thought of it that way."

I'm tempted to make this my new standard response.

tutucrazy's Avatar tutucrazy 09:17 PM 01-21-2010


You rock!
Storm Bride's Avatar Storm Bride 10:25 PM 01-21-2010
I love it. That's hilarious...and yet it says so much.
Carlin's Avatar Carlin 10:29 PM 01-21-2010
That is the best response I've ever heard. I hope you don't mind if I steal it?
QueenOfTheMeadow's Avatar QueenOfTheMeadow 10:38 PM 01-21-2010
Love it!
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honey3's Avatar honey3 10:48 PM 01-21-2010
Love it.
wytchywoman's Avatar wytchywoman 11:20 PM 01-21-2010
Awesome!!!
BlessedMommy2006's Avatar BlessedMommy2006 11:38 PM 01-21-2010
It sure gets people thinking!

You know, I wonder if any of those people asking you that question were from the "look like daddy" crowd. Because, in your case, circumcision would make your son NOT look like Daddy.

I seriously think that some people must assume that all adult males are circ'ed or something. I knew of another person whose husband was intact and she kept her son intact too. Somebody asked her, "But don't you want him to look like daddy?" She said, "Um, yeah."
eepster's Avatar eepster 12:01 AM 01-22-2010
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the potential it would have to be painfully removed in adulthood.
That happened to my father when he was in his 60s. It was horrible it had become badly ingrown and he had to go to a podiatrist. It really is much better to ask to have the entire male populations toenails removed at birth just to prevent these tragic ingrown toenails in the senior citizen population 60 to 70 years from now.
BlessedMommy2006's Avatar BlessedMommy2006 12:17 AM 01-22-2010
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That happened to my father when he was in his 60s. It was horrible it had become badly ingrown and he had to go to a podiatrist. It really is much better to ask to have the entire male populations toenails removed at birth just to prevent these tragic ingrown toenails in the senior citizen population 60 to 70 years from now.

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DJay's Avatar DJay 08:59 AM 01-22-2010
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That happened to my father when he was in his 60s. It was horrible it had become badly ingrown and he had to go to a podiatrist. It really is much better to ask to have the entire male populations toenails removed at birth just to prevent these tragic ingrown toenails in the senior citizen population 60 to 70 years from now.

If he had not had his big toenail removed, he probably would never have been permitted to enter the nursing home. Such problems with old men with intact big toenails!
Everrgreen's Avatar Everrgreen 12:14 PM 01-22-2010
That is awesome! Best response ever
mamabearsoblessed's Avatar mamabearsoblessed 12:35 PM 01-22-2010


LOVE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



EarthMommy80's Avatar EarthMommy80 12:59 PM 01-22-2010
Bahahaha

That is fabulous! And, I am totaly going to use this when someone wants to tell me what I should have done with my sons penis.
2xy's Avatar 2xy 01:04 PM 01-22-2010
That's awesome!

My standard answer was, "Why do you want to know about my child's genitals?" It usually made people feel uncomfortable and they'd stammer or change the subject. However, it really wasn't very informative, and your toenail analogy is so much better.
mamadelbosque's Avatar mamadelbosque 01:26 PM 01-22-2010
Thats got to be the best response I have *EVER* heard!! LOLOL!!!
organicpapayamama's Avatar organicpapayamama 01:36 PM 01-22-2010
just had to say BRAVO!
crunchymomofmany's Avatar crunchymomofmany 02:13 PM 01-22-2010
That's the funniest thing I've heard in - well, a really long time! You rock!
proudmomof4's Avatar proudmomof4 02:52 PM 01-22-2010

erin23kate's Avatar erin23kate 03:38 PM 01-22-2010
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Originally Posted by BlessedMommy2006 View Post
It sure gets people thinking!

You know, I wonder if any of those people asking you that question were from the "look like daddy" crowd. Because, in your case, circumcision would make your son NOT look like Daddy.

I seriously think that some people must assume that all adult males are circ'ed or something. I knew of another person whose husband was intact and she kept her son intact too. Somebody asked her, "But don't you want him to look like daddy?" She said, "Um, yeah."
I do get to answer this question with a "yeah, he will" - DH is intact...for which as a wife I am quite grateful, no lie. But even if he were circ'd (as his brothers and father are, long story), I would still feel this way; I did before I met DH.
BlessedMommy2006's Avatar BlessedMommy2006 04:57 PM 01-22-2010
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I do get to answer this question with a "yeah, he will" - DH is intact...for which as a wife I am quite grateful, no lie. But even if he were circ'd (as his brothers and father are, long story), I would still feel this way; I did before I met DH.
You and your DH sure lucked out over the suspected blood clotting disorder! (I remember you sharing that in a prior thread)
GoodMomma's Avatar GoodMomma 05:49 PM 01-22-2010
What an awesome response!
Belle's Avatar Belle 07:30 PM 01-22-2010
I think I might have to borrow this response. This is brilliant!


Especially since my dh has had problems for years with ingrown toenails, and my brother has had fungus problems. Better to just get it done as an infant so that he won't have to worry about it as an adult.
ChristaN's Avatar ChristaN 02:30 AM 01-23-2010
That leaves me wondering how a doc would respond if a parent requested having her infant's toenail(s) removed for that reason. I guess that being snarky with medical professionals doesn't always play out well, though .

The fact that people are even asking you does make it clear that even those who are very pro-circ are aware that there are parents out there who aren't doing this anymore, though. Awareness of the fact that one can choose to leave a boy intact is a good first step at least. Many moms in my mom's generation didn't seem to know that they had a choice at all.
Proxi's Avatar Proxi 03:55 AM 01-23-2010
Loved this answer!
arihillfarm's Avatar arihillfarm 10:32 PM 01-23-2010
Well, I bet she never asks anyone else this same question, LOL!

-Astrid
Starcat2's Avatar Starcat2 11:31 PM 01-23-2010
Awesome! Totally loved your response to this!
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