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I've actually had this question from quite a few people. My precious baby boy is due in March .

I always answered this question seriously and quietly, but I tried something different with a cousin (I was feeling a little "snarky"):

HER: "He's going to be circumcised, right?"
ME: "No, but we are going to remove his big toenail."

After the obscene look of horror, I went on to talk about how toenails are gross, hard to keep clean, and removing it would prevent fungal infections and the potential it would have to be painfully removed in adulthood. Finally, I pointed out that my husband is missing his big toenail and I wanted the baby to "look like daddy."

She stared at me for a while, said "You could have just said NO" and then added.... "I guess you sorta do have a point... I never thought of it that way."

I'm tempted to make this my new standard response.
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I love it. That's hilarious...and yet it says so much.

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That is the best response I've ever heard. I hope you don't mind if I steal it?

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Love it.

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It sure gets people thinking!

You know, I wonder if any of those people asking you that question were from the "look like daddy" crowd. Because, in your case, circumcision would make your son NOT look like Daddy.

I seriously think that some people must assume that all adult males are circ'ed or something. I knew of another person whose husband was intact and she kept her son intact too. Somebody asked her, "But don't you want him to look like daddy?" She said, "Um, yeah."
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the potential it would have to be painfully removed in adulthood.
That happened to my father when he was in his 60s. It was horrible it had become badly ingrown and he had to go to a podiatrist. It really is much better to ask to have the entire male populations toenails removed at birth just to prevent these tragic ingrown toenails in the senior citizen population 60 to 70 years from now.

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That happened to my father when he was in his 60s. It was horrible it had become badly ingrown and he had to go to a podiatrist. It really is much better to ask to have the entire male populations toenails removed at birth just to prevent these tragic ingrown toenails in the senior citizen population 60 to 70 years from now.
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That happened to my father when he was in his 60s. It was horrible it had become badly ingrown and he had to go to a podiatrist. It really is much better to ask to have the entire male populations toenails removed at birth just to prevent these tragic ingrown toenails in the senior citizen population 60 to 70 years from now.

If he had not had his big toenail removed, he probably would never have been permitted to enter the nursing home. Such problems with old men with intact big toenails!
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That is awesome! Best response ever

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LOVE THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



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Bahahaha

That is fabulous! And, I am totaly going to use this when someone wants to tell me what I should have done with my sons penis.

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That's awesome!

My standard answer was, "Why do you want to know about my child's genitals?" It usually made people feel uncomfortable and they'd stammer or change the subject. However, it really wasn't very informative, and your toenail analogy is so much better.
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Thats got to be the best response I have *EVER* heard!! LOLOL!!!
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That's the funniest thing I've heard in - well, a really long time! You rock!

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It sure gets people thinking!

You know, I wonder if any of those people asking you that question were from the "look like daddy" crowd. Because, in your case, circumcision would make your son NOT look like Daddy.

I seriously think that some people must assume that all adult males are circ'ed or something. I knew of another person whose husband was intact and she kept her son intact too. Somebody asked her, "But don't you want him to look like daddy?" She said, "Um, yeah."
I do get to answer this question with a "yeah, he will" - DH is intact...for which as a wife I am quite grateful, no lie. But even if he were circ'd (as his brothers and father are, long story), I would still feel this way; I did before I met DH.
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I do get to answer this question with a "yeah, he will" - DH is intact...for which as a wife I am quite grateful, no lie. But even if he were circ'd (as his brothers and father are, long story), I would still feel this way; I did before I met DH.
You and your DH sure lucked out over the suspected blood clotting disorder! (I remember you sharing that in a prior thread)
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What an awesome response!

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I think I might have to borrow this response. This is brilliant!


Especially since my dh has had problems for years with ingrown toenails, and my brother has had fungus problems. Better to just get it done as an infant so that he won't have to worry about it as an adult.

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That leaves me wondering how a doc would respond if a parent requested having her infant's toenail(s) removed for that reason. I guess that being snarky with medical professionals doesn't always play out well, though .

The fact that people are even asking you does make it clear that even those who are very pro-circ are aware that there are parents out there who aren't doing this anymore, though. Awareness of the fact that one can choose to leave a boy intact is a good first step at least. Many moms in my mom's generation didn't seem to know that they had a choice at all.
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Loved this answer!
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Well, I bet she never asks anyone else this same question, LOL!

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Awesome! Totally loved your response to this!

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