Originally Posted by LaLaLaLa
Kids get teased for all sorts of things. Including being intact if that is the minority. I don't think it helps anything to say it never happens; it's just a matter of whether that information should have an effect on anyone's decision.
Good point!! I think that it is disingenuous to pretend locker room teasing never
happens. Maybe it happens far, far less than many men would imagine, but it does happen so to say that it does not and will not is not quite true.
But even if you could say with 100% certainty that this baby boy WILL be teased as an adolescent for having a foreskin.... is that REALLY a reason to cut it off?? Of course not! Heck, I was teased all through high school for stuff I did on purpose, like dress funny and dye my hair orange. If being teased by shallow classmates was really so awful, I could have simply chosen to not dye my hair orange, but I chose to be myself rather than conform and not be teased. How could any prospective parent think that they KNOW their son would be willing to part with his foreskin to avoid a few years of teasing, if I couldn't even part with a bottle of peroxide?
It all comes back again, as usual, to the circumcised father trying to justify his own circumcision. They have to feel like they were cut for a reason, and it makes them feel good to think that they avoided years of unbearable locker-room teasing because they were circumcised. Something like, "thank goodness my parents circumcised me as a baby so I avoided the sure sentence of years of teasing! I have to do the same favor for my son!" For a circumcised father, it can be tough to face up the the facts that a-it is very unlikely that his son will ever be teased for his intact status and that b- even if he is, high school is a short time in your life and c-with confidence in himself and compassion for others, he can deal with teasing without it being a big deal, and d- anyone who teases him for being intact is just acting on their own insecurities for being circumcised. And so, many husbands cling to the "locker room" myth. And by myth, I don't mean to say that teasing never happens, I have seen it myself, but I mean it is a myth to think that circumcision is a solution to the remote possibility of maybe some fleeting time of being teased by shallow people some years down the road.
As for the question of the OP, the "locker room" teasing I witnessed was never to the face actual teasing. It was more like college room mates and dorm mates telling their friends and girlfriends that "so and so" has an "anteater," delivered in hushed tones and giggles. Certainly these guys were just looking to hear that their
penises were okay. I'm sure the guy in question may have been stung by knowing they were calling him gross behind his back, but I didn't see him running out to have surgery because of it. I'm sure he had the satisfaction of knowing he had all his body parts and all his sexual nerve endings in place. Besides, he was the dorm "weirdo" anyway for reasons having nothing to do with his penis, so they would have teased him anyway. He didn't seem to care, he liked who he was and didn't seem to care if others thought he was cool or if his penis looked right to them.
So in summary, yeah teasing probably does happen from time to time, but I don't see how that could ever
be a reason to circumcise a baby.