I haven't read the whole thread yet, but I am debating over this right now with my 10 day old son. we didn't know what we were having, but i was really hoping for a girl so i wouldn't have to deal with this. i should have researched it while i was pregnant, but didn't.
We circ'd our first son, I didn't really want to but DH did and as we did everything else my way I compromised on this. And his circ went fine, no problems at all. he was not happy when he woke up from the nap he took right after, but after that it never seemed to bother him again. i did everything i could to make it easier for him- we used anesthetic (sp?), some thick white cream stuff that we globbed all over him 30 min before hand. i didn't not see it done, i made dh do it. ds was not tied down, but only held by dh and a nurse. with every diaper change (and i change every time he pees) i would apply neosporin + pain relief.
this time around we have to pay out of pocket for it, and the dr who did my first son charges 2x as much as every other dr. i'm not sure why. but i really like this dr and would want her to do it (with my first son, when i brought up the circ, she asked me if i was sure i wanted it) cause i feel more comfortable with her doing it than some unknown dr. and reading here there's mention of different styles of circ (high and tight, low and loose) and i have no idea what these mean. or which is 'better'/less bad. it's so overwhelming. i think ds1's circ is 'loose' because his skin does at times cover part of his glans. i'm not sure on the high vs. low thing.
while i have no problems with having my sons intact when dh is circ'd, i do worry about how it will go having one son circ'd and one not. i would love to hear from mom's who have both sons who are and who aren't circ'd. right now this is the only reason we want it done. dh now wishes ds1 wasn't so we wouldn't have to do it this time (mostly cause of the $$, which kinda upsets me.) i don't see any need for circ'ing, god knew what he was doing. on the other hand, if circ'ing is so horrible why would god have told the israelites/jews to do it? that wouldn't make sense. --that's not a real question, just something i wonder.
it's hard for me to know what to make of the risks of circ'ing, because neither dh nor ds1 have had any complications.
mama to DS born 9/7/05, DD born 8/20/07, DS born 9/4/10 and DS born 11/26/13Loving our chaotic, crunchy, homeschooling life!