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#1 of 6 Old 01-21-2011, 05:10 AM - Thread Starter
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We had our first intact son 2 years ago. We were given quite the pressure from my parents to circ him, but knew we didn't want to and refused. They (and my MA sister) still think we made a stupid decision that Jonas is going to hate us for in the future.


Our second intact son is due in 16 weeks. I *thought* we'd get less pressure from them, seeing that we already have an intact son who has NEVER had any problems with his penis/foreskin.






I mean, my mother and I disagree with each other on EVERYTHING, from homebirth to extended breastfeeding to vaccines to circumcision, why in the WORLD did I think she wouldn't say anything?? It started yesterday. She informed me that if I didn't do any vitamin K or testing at birth (considering opting out at the hospital so we can go home early), we wouldn't know if he had hemophilia until they circumcised him and then it would be too late. Um... yeah... Again, like with Jonas, assuming that we will "come to our senses" and circumcise them, put them on formula and get them on the CDC vax schedule... After all, this is just a "fad" and I'm only doing it to be "cool"... (no, seriously, that's what she's said to me before!)


Fear not, my fellow intactivists. At least two boys (for now) are safe from meaningless, harmful cutting of their genitalia! :D

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Wow.  Your mom is way overstepping her boundaries, don't you think?  Good for you for not doing it!

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Wow. I thought I had it bad having to listen to my MIL gripe that I was spoiling the baby by holding her too much.


This baby I'm currently growing is a boy and it will be interesting to see how my in-laws react to him staying intact (my mother is an intactivist thank the gods!). My 8 year old son from a previous marriage is intact but I don't think the in laws know that as they've never had a reason to see his penis.


I plan on printing on some of the shorter anti circ facts to hand to them if they start in with the bologna myths. Have you tried printing out some materials and showing them to your mother? I totally understand if that wont even work. Good for you for not giving into her pressure!

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It really sucks when you have family that just will not let it go. From time to time my mom brings it up again and ds is now 6yo. She hates that I have intactavisim bumper stickers she hates that I talk about cic *shhhh we dont talk about stuff like that it isnt polite* eyesroll.gif Sometimes I dont mind talking to her about it if we are both in the right mood but usually I really dont feel like going over it all again.

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There is nothing wrong with telling your family that you will not discuss medical issues with them and that if they persist, the visit is over.  If you are at their house, leave.  If they are at yours, tell them to leave.  They will either learn to respect your boundaries so that they can see you and your kids or they won't.  Either way, you won't have to put up with their nonsense anymore. 

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#6 of 6 Old 01-28-2011, 12:32 PM
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Wow... and now I'm thankful that I get written off as the crazy crunchy rebel who just doesn't care what they think! (hugs)

It's such a relief to finally trust yourself.
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