Thank you for posting this! I've heard mention of such a thread, but hadn't found it.
I often wish I had had anyone, anywhere, at any time tell me that it was ok not to circ - at the very least! Learning what I now know (more about anatomy, function, etc.) has only made my regrets and sorrow deepen. There is not a day I don't think about it. Especially because...we kept postponing it, it didn't feel right to us...how could our perfect baby boy need alteration? But the response from friends, family and doctors was SO overwhelming pro-circ, and having dating almost exclusively circ'ed men (and worrying about DS' future love life - a fear, I think, that is becoming even less warranted by his generation, as more babies are left intact - and of course, now I know that ironically, circumcision negatively affects his love life!), and not being familiar with care...I just gave in.
We chose a pediatric urologist, made sure he had all pain meds available, we held his little hands and I nursed him right after...but I WISH I had had the courage to fly from that room with him, when they first began to separate his foreskin. It was the most horrific experience of my life. I will never forget it or forgive myself. Cultural norms are hard to shake, yes, but it was just so traumatic, there really are no excuses. I don't think most people even KNOW how horrendous it is, because most people aren't present to witness it!!! Not that the aftermath isn't awful, too. I just can only imagine that our practice of doing it at birth behind closed doors doesn't help. Or else, most harden their hearts in the manner of CIO and other culturally normal baby practices (none of which we do, thank god).
Needless to say, if we ever have another boy, I'm in the same boat as the OP. As soon as it was over, I told my husband in no uncertain terms, through my tears, that we are NEVER EVER doing that to another child!