Hi, I just joined this board specifically to comment on this thread.
I commend the OP for being open to not circumcising! I was so happy to read that.
I am a man who had a circumcision done when I was a baby, and my circumcision has caused me a lot of problems. Circumcision is an irreversible procedure that removes erogenous tissue, and partly or completely ruins the penis's ability to self-lubricate. I am so happy to see that more mothers aren't subjecting their sons to this unnecessary operation, which was initially popularized in the US for the express purpose of reducing sexual pleasure, in a time when sexual pleasure was incorrectly seen as the cause of many disorders.
I am not sure if this has been mentioned already, but if not, I would like you to be aware of the "phony phimosis diagnosis". The majority of young children's foreskins don't retract for a good while. They're adhered to the glanses firmly. The foreskin separates from the glans slowly in most cases, and usually the foreskin becomes fully retractable around age 10, very roughly speaking (but every boy is different).
If a doctor diagnoses your son with "phimosis" while he is still a child, I would urge you to get a second opinion. Many boys are unnecessarily circumcised due to false phimosis diagnoses. Many doctors simply don't know that the foreskin is normally non-retractable in infants.
There are very, very
few legitimate indications for circumcision. Some (not all, but some) doctors rush to circumcision as the first-line treatment for any and all penis problems in the intact male child. This is an extreme measure that is almost always unnecessary. There are almost always other, less-severe treatments available (although most likely your son will be perfectly fine and this won't be an issue, it's good to be aware, just in case).
I would also like to stress that "ballooning" during urination is normal in intact male children and is not harmful in and of itself.
And, it is common for an intact boy to have a "pointy penis" or "redundant" foreskin. The fact is, it isn't redundant. He will more than likely "grow into" it in time. At birth, nothing in his body is going to look like it will when he grows up. Throughout his youth, his body will be a work in progress.