Originally Posted by mysticmomma
Why were you cut a year ago?
To respond to mysticmomma: I was cut to repair a micro fracture in a vein half way up my penis - in short, the penis is designed to point upwards when erect and 'under pressure'. An unfortunate slip during intimacy with my wife pushed it downwards. It can happen for example if the lady is on top, and leans backwards too far.
Apparently its pretty rare, especially for a lifelong 'standard practice' hetrosexual couple like us. In Paris where I was operated, with a population of 8 million, it happens to about 10 men a year.
Mine was a tiny tear. In order to repair it so as to ensure it could take full pressure again, the surgeon recommended precautionary action. The easiest access for 1 micro stich was by pulling the foreskin all the way down, for which circumcision was needed.
The surgeon, 2 leading uroligists, my general practitioner and a sexologists all tell me the stitch had no consequence to the loss in sensation I am feeling - the fracture being far from the erogenous end area. Also, apparently my circumcision is a 'good normal one'. My erections are as hard as they have ever been. I just dont have a foreskin to move around my knob like I could before.
I am not angry at losing my foreskin - it was precautionary 'collateral damage'. But I am amazed at the difference in life of being a man with one, then suddenly without one. This thread on 'spurt distance' is just one of the visual examples that has helped my wife understand, hence my writing.
In trying to understand why intimacy with my lifelong partner has suddenly become so underwhelming compared to before, and why my penis is generally pretty unimpressed with its new unprotected and exposed daily life, I have taken a look into the subject of circumcision to see if I am an exceptional case or if I can do more to improve my situation. It would seem I am far from being alone, and I am amazed at the general misconceptions and taboos surrounding it. My before / after experience really exposes these misconceptions, and I hope my writings like this example on the reality help dispell them. Bottom line from my experience, wondering around with your knob permanently exposed is not how a man should ideally have to go through life, especially if he has regular access to water to clean himself. The foreskin really adds so much comfort, and sexual pleasure. And no one else who is cut has managed to explain to me otherwize. I basically just get the comfort of "dont worry you'll get used to it". I got unlucky, but others really shouldnt have to "get used to it" unless they chose to themselves, and with the knowledge of the potential consequences, as I highlight.