Originally Posted by joandsarah77
I think this boy need legal aid. Surly the US has some form of free legal aid or even a call to social services might be in order.
He has no legal option, because he has no rights. He is 15 and 11 months shy of 16 when he could apply for emancipation. Before that age a boy in America has no rights protecting their genital integrity like girls do. Social services can't do anything, because there is nothing going on that the US government would define as abuse.
He is from a small town in a conservative, religious family. It did seem weird that he had surgery on that day. But apparently the doctor is a close family friend, and trusts in the fathers opinion more than the boy. Also they wanted to pick a time so he would have the most time off from school to heal.
He contacted me today and said the surgery happened, and it was the worst thing that happened in his life. He felt vulnerable, and humiliated. His uncle wants to give him money and his Dad a computer. I told him he should show how he feels by refusing both and ask them to be donated to a human rights organization. He said thats a bit too much to deal with, as he is just dealing with how everything feels now.
I put him in contact with a few people who I trust online who I think would be a good emotional support as he doesn't have that at home. He got angry with his Dad about all of it before hand and apparently punched him, and then that Dad grounded him after that. He had no one else to go to, run to, escape to. I am just trying to support him now and make him feel good about himself, his body, and make sure he still feels empowered and not voiceless despite the dehumanizing act of a forced circumcision.
I am going to keep up with him, and see if he will be interested in actually sharing his story on youtube and other places. I won't bring that up now, but later when he gets to that stage where he feels like he needs to DO SOMETHING to feel better. It might be really helpful to have examples of boys for the public to see who are having their own boldly integrity pushed aside, and traumatized like this. Our culture is horribly, horribly messed up and more people need to understand what that really means. This kid is a prime example of that. More than anything I just hope he can heal from this emotionally.