Originally Posted by perspective
If you agree that the discussion was already resolved after my response to her, why didn't you just "put it aside" instead of responding?
Its because you disagree with my perspective on her comments. To think of a person who allowed victimization to occur before of the victimized. To consider a parent before (or honestly in any way) before the child, devalues this issue as the human rights issue it is. I mean we all do it. Many of us grew up in a society that has normalized these kinds of forced acts. So there is a lot for all of us to culturally deprogram from our own minds.
All I am trying to say here is- we all need to learn to be more mindful. Nothing more complicated than that. But you are not wrong, we have probably talked this out a bit!
I understand your perspective; it seems that your goal was to make me think critically of my use of language and I appreciate that. I agree, we do we need to be critical and mindful of the way in which we talk about these important issues, even within our own communities.
However, I feel that you are stretching my response to fit your argument. I do not in any way prioritize the parent's feelings over the child's bodily autonomy. When I responded with shock and sympathy for the parents, that comes after my empathy for the boys whose bodies are being mutilated against their wills. I have already stated that I'm completely against circumcision; I would debate against it, and advocate for human rights at any opportunity.
This does not take away from my sympathy for the parents who are misinformed, whose consent is being used to exploit their sons, beyond what is already done to them. I can have sympathy for misinformed parent's without losing any empathy or care for the boys, who are the primary victims.
I appreciate what you were trying to do and point out through criticizing my comment. If I were talking anywhere else (not on a natural parenting forum on a thread against circumcision) I wouldn't say the same things, because I wouldn't assume that the people I am talking to already agree that circumcision is morally wrong.
Whew! That was a stirring conversation! Honestly, I appreciate the opportunity to reconsider my language and my position on this issue. Know that going forward, I will be even more mindful of the language I use when talking about circumcision!