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#151 of 156 Old 03-09-2006, 04:03 PM
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And yes, it's TOTALLY normal to worry - here you are, responsible for a whole new person!

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YES! I forgot about doing a "breast fest" - I did this with my dd when she was 3 weeks old -- at that time we were still doing a combo of nursing and bottles of breast milk. A public health nurse actually told me that if I wanted a breastfed baby who sometimes got a bottle rather than a bottlefed baby who sometimes breastfed, I just had to go for it. That weekend I did just as misty said and nursed round the clock and my dd nursed for 23 months after that!

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And I agree with everyone else, she needs to just nurse and stop supplementing. The more she supplements now, the more she's going to need to supplement.

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Both my boys lost a lot of weight when they were born and didn't get back to their birth weight until about 2 or 3 weeks and they are fine and normal sized and healthy. Formula fed babies gain from birth but breastfed babies often do not and that is okay. Some people do not know this, even lactation consultants, and make you worry needlessly. If she doesn't quit the formula, she won't make enough milk.

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As an LC, I always get a little nervous when I hear people say "ditch the formula."

For the record, most mothers will make plenty of milk, and if their supply is suffering it is *usually* something relatively easily corrected like Latch or nursing frequency or needless supplementation.

However, there is a small percentage of mothers who truly, truly struggle with milk supply - even if they are doing everything 'right.' Sometimes the reason is clear: medications, prior struggles with infertility, abnormal breast development etc. Other times we can be detectives and look and look but never find a clear answer.

This baby was only (according to it's father) transferring 0.6 ounces per feeding. That's not enough. Now, maybe this was a late afternoon/evening feeding (when supply is naturally a bit lower), or maybe the scale wasn't super-accurate (my personal preference is the Medela Babyweigh - it's accurate to 2 grams & can calculate intake for you). But regardless, ditching the supplement w/o really excellent follow up is a bad idea in this case.

I have seen a handful of babies whose mothers followed this kind of well-meant advice...some did okay, but others came to me very, very ill.

I'm not saying that a "nursing fest" or whatever doesn't work, because sometimes it truly does. I'm just saying proceed with caution. And remember that there are some good galactogogues out there if you need them.
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Originally Posted by ericisbacchus
Well, my son is here. He's perfect, and I love him more than anything on the planet!
Yay : and congratulations

Of course, he is uncircumcised.

Quick question - is it normal for me to be worrying about him a lot? I'm worried as heck when people are holding I'm worried they may give him a cold or drop him or something. I'll admit I'm being paranoid - I just need some reassurance, folks.


so sweet

Yes perfectly normal to worry so much. I remember quivering when a cooing stranger stroked my baby's hair. The transformation into a parent amazes me.

And I would definitely seek lots of input on the nursing thing. What others have said is true about supply and demand and so supplementing can make it difficult for the mother to make enough. However it is also wise to be as observant as possible and respond when necessary. Good Luck Keep looking for the people to support what you want. With any luck you can get it!
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