I have 3 friends with 3 sons each (6 boys in OK and 3 in TX) -- all circ'd. My cousin's 4 also.
My sister is an ob in AZ and she told me it was cosmetic surgery with no real reason to do it -- and then circ'd her baby! I nearly cried for the poor thing! She said that there, it's becoming an income thing since Medicaid and the low income health program won't pay for it....
Kristin, mom to dd#1 (5), dd#2 (3), ds#1 (10 months)
mama to Raenen (HB 9/04), Sevi (HWB 1/07) & Ani (HWB 10/10); ectopic (8/09)
I have had people ask me how long the circ took to heal after I had DS#1 - and actually look at me like I had 10 heads when I said we chose not to do that. : I didn't realize we were so strange! LOL!
Bobby - 3/1/2002
Andy - 5/1/2005
My girlfriend is jewish and she had two boys. She invited me to the "brist" of her second. A brist is a "celebration" when the baby is, I think, a week old in which they circ him in the home and it is done by a special jewish, I can't remember what he is called, person. I said I had to work. There was no way I could be present and listen to that when I was due any day with my DS. On top of it all they took him to a specialist last week because he has scar tissue and has gotten a UTI.
I wish I would have done more to talk them out of it. Their arguments for it were pretty vague. One actually said that she heard circ'ing lessened pleasure, which would be a good thing if her son was anything like his father?!! What the...
Jill, wife to J, mama to O (10/03), MK (7/05), (7/09), A (5/4/10), and ***4***8***12***16***20***24***28***32***36*****
Through the years of being a mom, I've found that almost all the sons of moms I've met through LLL and more "natural family" type circles have kept their sons intact.
However, in more "unnatural family" circles (for lack of a better definition - you know, the parents that just do what they're told and not what their hearts tell them) like at church, neighbors and the general public have had their boys cut and the sad thing is they don't have a reason for it! No thought even given to what has been done to their little boys!
I don't understand ignorance. :
~ Kris ~
I've only heard of 3 men in my area being circ'd. Yeah, it's big news around here when somebody finds out a man isn't cut!
I was absolutely SHOCKED and HORRIFIED to discover that this preactice was carried out so freely and without (from what I can see) reason, in the U.S.
Here in Ireland Doctors do not carry out medical procedures (because that is what it is) on babies or children without medical reason.
When I assisted at communty daycare (as a volunteer whren I was younger) I only ever saw one circ'ed baby.
This was carried out due to phimosis.
As far as I know, phimosis and ballinitis (relatively rare) are the only two conditions for which doctors here will circ a boy.
My friends hubbie had a partial circ as an adult due to an overtight foreskin which suffered repeated (painful) spilits and scarring.
But apart from those two, all the males I know here, are intact.
My cousin tho' is married to a U.S. man of the jewish faith and he is circ'ed.
His Mom's argument for it (I could not get my head around this!!!) was
- Why should boys not have to go thru circumcision; their mothers have to go thru childbirth -
I was too stunned to reply!!
Phimosis is the most misdiagnosed problem and when the diagnosis is correct, circumcision is like cutting off a finger to cure a hangnail. There are a range of less invasive cures available.
The story of your cousins mother in law is repugnant at best.
Last year, we sold our car to a family and when they came over to buy it, their 3 or 4 year old boy, for whatever reason, pulled his pants down in our front yard:LOL His mother was mortified, but I was so happy to see a foreskin on him. Lucky little boy!
I am proud to have an intact soon to be 4 year old son here is eastern PA in a very uppity area. But then again he was born is a fairly crunchy community in Albuquerque, NM with the most wonderful educational homebirth midwife EVER! And Medicaid paid for the whole thing homebirth and all.
Sadly I actually still have to educate others about my sons intact penis and how it is in no way dirty or prone to infections. I know now that I have to tell anyone caring for him to NEVER retract his foreskin thanks to some of the stories here. Thankfully we haven't had to deal with Dr's much since we're also not vacc.
Mama to two awesome kids. Wife to a wonderful, attached, loving husband. I love my job-- I'm a Midwife, Doula and Childbirth Educator, Classes forming now!
Good news! When I dropped DS off at daycare today, a new little boy about 6 weeks old was getting his diaper changed and - drumroll please! - he was intact! His is only the 2nd intact penis I've ever seen IRL (first being my son's). Lucky boy!
Loving wife of my gamer boy Michael. Blog link in my profile!
My bother and his wife had a baby 12 hours before my little guy was born and they had him circ'd but they live in the midwest. I thought it was nuts but then again, my SIL also didn't breast feed because she wanted my brother to take over all the night feedings....