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Old 12-02-2005, 06:45 PM
 
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Oh, sweetie... I just read your memorial page and I'm still crying. I can't even begin to imagine the pain you are feeling.

In answer to the question... it seems that maybe more is going here besides the circ issue? I personally wouldn't stay married to someone who was so forceful as to relentlessly demand a circ, but for many reasons. Have you and your dh gone to grief counseling together? Maybe something like that could help you two get back to being focused on eachother and really understanding eachother. Hopefully, with that help, the circ issue will be easier to work out. Good luck.
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Oh, sweetie... I just read your memorial page and I'm still crying. I can't even begin to imagine the pain you are feeling.

In answer to the question... it seems that maybe more is going here besides the circ issue? I personally wouldn't stay married to someone who was so forceful as to relentlessly demand a circ, but for many reasons. Have you and your dh gone to grief counseling together? Maybe something like that could help you two get back to being focused on eachother and really understanding eachother. Hopefully, with that help, the circ issue will be easier to work out. Good luck.
: Also, have you checked out the grief & loss forum here at MDC? It might have some helpful advice about how to get through the grief.
I also want to second the advice about talking to a counselor. It can help you immensely.
I never answered your op because I don't know how I'd react. I was lucky; my dh had no objections to leaving our ds intact.
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Old 12-02-2005, 10:18 PM
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Mama, how are you doing?

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Just FYI, she lost her toddler, not a pregnancy.

Mama, how are you doing?
Oh, noooo! Thanks for the info. I'll go edit my post.
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OP - I just read Jordana's memorial. I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. We found my DD unconcious in the pool when she was 2.5 yrs. Thankfully, she survived, but I wanted to pass along my most heartfelt condolences to you and your DH. I can't imagine having the strength to go on if our outcome had been different. I think grief counselling as a couple is a must, if you haven't already started.


As far as the original question, yes, I would let my DH divorce me over it. Like many others have mentioned, the day DH stops listening to what I have to say and research something that I find so very important, would the beginning of the end. If we can't communicate w/ each other and listen to what each other has to say, especially regarding something painful and permanent to our child, what kind of relationship do we have?
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girl138, I've been thinking about you. How are you and your DH doing?
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