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#1 of 18 Old 12-31-2005, 07:31 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Zachary Logan was born about half an hour ago. She never even got to read my letter to her!
But, it's done. It's over. He will be circumcised and there is nothing I can do about it. So, I have to let it go.
I thought about not buying them anything... distancing myself from all of it. But I do love her, and this is the most exciting day of her life. She'll circ him, and life will go on. I'm not happy about it, I think it's selfish (especially since she had an epidural... nothing against epis!! But I just think that since SHE was not willing to deal with the pain of labor, why should HE be forced to deal with a circ?) and wrong and hateful.
But- I love my sister in law. I love my nephew. I hate her husband but he won't be around that long. They reconsidered naming the baby Alien and, while I hate Logan with a passion, Zachary Logan is a fine name.
So, welcome to the world Zachary. I love you and will do everything in my power to help you throughout life, forsekin or no foreskin.


(I am buying them a memory box with his name, DOB, and birthstone in it... I contemplated including a note "You can save his foreskin in this for when he wants it back" but I thought better of it)
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I hate to hear this, but sometimes there is just no way to stop a person from making a stupid mistake. Hopefully, the procedure will be performed professionally (unlike mine, which left me painfully shy of adequate skin to accomodate a normal erection, and heavily scarred on the bottom side of the shaft). I hope that Zachary does not grow up to hate his parents, and that the physical and psychological side effects are not severe. Just take solace in the fact that the cat is out of the bag now, and when he matures, he will be well aware of the ramifications of their deed, and will have access to plenty of material online regarding how to reverse their terrible decision.
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I'm so sorry for his loss.
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Im so sorry for his loss.
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Welcome Zachary!
My heart breaks for what you are about to endure. I'm so sorry baby! May you one day break the cycle of violence with your own son!

OUR DAUGHTERS ARE PROTECTED SHOULDN'T OUR SONS BE TOO! :
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I am so sorry!

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I am so sorry!
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Estelle, you did all you could and you should be proud very proud of your efforts on behalf of this little one.

Zachary, sweet baby boy...you are in our thoughts. Welcome to the world, please know that not all experiences you will have in this life will be so harsh. Someday you will have a voice of your own.

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Congratulations on being an Auntie, Estelle.

I'm about miracles and I'm not giving up on this one yet. Sometimes it's hardest to deal with our own families and everything gets into a tussle of wills. Get out of the way on this one and pray with everything you've got. You just don't know---there may be a nurse or dr that the dad relates to who gets through to him that it's a bad idea, some other friend may say the right thing, he may see a picture or__________________________ (fill in the blank). It ain't over till it's over.

Anyway, this is going to be a year for ending genital mutilation of children once and for all. I'm sending miracle vibes your way and I'm very excited that a new baby has arrived in your family. Baybee
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I will be praying for him.





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You did what you could. Sometimes people will listen; sometimes they won't.
Maybe, if they have another son, they will decide to leave him intact. You never know.
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Welcome to our harsh world, Zachary. Too bad you've got to find out the harshness so darn early.

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Congratulations of becoming an aunt.

To little Zach: I'm so sorry, sweetie. You don't deserve this. No one does. Even though your own parents are too cowardly to buck the trends and save you from this pain, I hope that in the future you will have the courage, and decency to do right by your own kids.

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I have been reading your threads about how hard you have been trying and I applaud you for all of your effort. You will be a fantastic auntie. Your presence will help to make up for the loss of his foreskin and when he asks questions about it in the future, you will be there with honest answers.

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They reconsidered naming the baby Alien
You are joking right?

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#18 of 18 Old 01-04-2006, 11:48 PM - Thread Starter
 
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No, unfortunately, I'm not.
His name was originally to be Zacharias Alien.
They tried to convince my FIL (Donald Allen) that they were naming it after him. He told them to find another family member!
Family pressure prevailed... if only it had worked one more time.
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