Well, they had him circed! My brother said he was doing it becuase they are "tired of going through all this". Really? All WHAT? Its easier to whack off half his penis than to stand up to all her relatives? Easier than to find a doc who isnt an idiot? Easier than worrying about future problems that have a lower chance of happening than him being in a car accident? I mean WHAT?
And they never even bothered to get the information I had for them. They never bothered to get all the facts, knowing that they facts were out there. I would almost hope there were problems from the circ except that I cant wish that on the baby. For his sake I hope its as ok as it can be. But I dont get WHY. Oh yeah, because two doctors said it had to be done and of course since they are doctors, they know more than I. Or more than anyone I guess, since they didn't bother to research it at all. I mean, if a doctor told one of THEM that they needed to remove an organ or chop off a limb, I bet money they'd research it, get second, thrid, fourth opinions.....
Why would anyone mutilate thier child just to shut up thier relatives? Or to appease a doctor who HURT thier child? Ignorance is one thing, but I was telling them the facts and had research to back it up and they didnt even bother to try and be informed. My stepsister had her two sons circed, but in her case I know she was ignorant, willfully ignorant even, but still ignorant. My brother KNEW better, it was THIER decision not to circ even before they knew my viewpoint because of a newsshow they had seem somewhere that basically myth busted all the common reasons. And they had me telling them that all of that is still right and I could back it up and they did it anyway!
Two doctors does not make a consensus. When a dotor wanted to perform surgery on my mom, she got several opions and the majority of those were to do the surgery. Her own research told her that the surgery often did NOT improve the symptoms and she found risk factors no one had mentioned to her. One doctor she tried to discuss it with got mad at her and said people shouldnt read about it because it just scares them unnecisarily. Point is, she found a doctor who tried other treatments because she educated herself. She didnt do it just because a doctor, or two or three, said to. She knows they are in the business of surgery, right? My cousin had the same surgery and lost MORE function.
My mom and stepdad had a big fight over it, my stepdad said its THEIR decision so we should shut up and leave it to them. Well, those pushing FOR it werent shutting up so SOMEONE had to speak for the helpless baby!
Im so upset right now. I tried so hard. What more could I have done? I wish they would make it illegal. I think that every parent should have to WATCH it be done, no, they should have to hold thier child down for it. I bet you'd see the rates drop then. When they take the child into another room where you cant see or hear, it's easy to convince yourself that its "no big deal".
Sorry, I feel like Im going on and on but Im really distressed by this. I mean, I just can't beleive they would find mutilating thier son preferably to doing a little research, especially knowing that they KNOW he didnt need it. People never fail to amaze me.
You know, I didnt want my son circed, thats true, but that was pretty much as far as I had thought of it till now. All of this has made me a raging intactivist! I'm giving a presentation at our next staff meeting about it (had a talk with my boss yesterday) since we work with families with small children, I think our staff should be educated in case it ever comes up. Also plan to let them know if a family has questions and they arent comfortable talking about it (there are a few people I work with who would not want to talk about penises) that I will be happy to go out and do it. Ive also appended some info and several links to my signature in my email. Im not stopping there, in addition to my own office, Im in an association of EIS's (others who do what I do, they just work for other ECI programs) and Im going to talk to them. Then,I swear to God, I think Im going to write a book. Something with a real mainstream title that expectant parents will pick up. Has that been done? Do you think it would work? I dont know what else to do. I want to join a group thats fighting to BAN it! I mean, I am all on fire about this right now. I just cant believe people would keep willfully mutilating thier children!
Ok, deep breath. Deep breath. It's gonna be ok.