I am looking for a natural sexual lubricant. My DH is circ'd and most of the time we need to use some type of lubricant. However, of all the ones we have tried, they all leave me swollen, with a terrible burning sensation, and because I have Interstitial Cystitis, my bladder hurts and I go to the bathroom so much after sex that I get no sleep. I am assuming some of this is because DH is circ'd, but I know that it's the lube that leaves me with the burning sensation, because it burns right when it is applied. We have tried KY, Astroglide, and several others.
Is there a natural lubricant that anyone swears by? What about vegatable oils? I guess they would stain though? I don't know. I am just looking for a solution and I am hoping someone can help.
My DH is starting the restoration process, but as everyone knows...it takes a long time so we need help in the meantime. THANKS!
I notice that no matter how much "natural lube" I produce things still go dry after a little while.
Jen Mama of 2 precious boys (9) (6) and still in with my Matt after 12 years together.
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Momma to Patrick (8) Corey (7) Lilah- My UBA2C (11 months)
Having to stop and take that extra step to use lube is a sad reminder of what we lost to an "ignorant parental decision" that was made for him that he never wanted.
I hope someday soon we will not have to use it. My mom (who was married to my father who was intact) never had to use any lube in the 40+ years of marriage...not through pregnancy, menopause and after her hysterectomy. In fact, I had to inform her THIS YEAR what KY jelly and those other "personal lubricants" were for...she didn't know : .
To think of all the $$$ I have had to spend on that stuff, and I am very thrifty. Long term, restoration is clearly the way to go!
Perpetually breastfeeding or pregnant ENFP mom to a lot of kids...wife to a midwestern nice guy...living in tropical paradise...pink cats and homebirths rock!
Sorry, no suggestions to the lube problem but after dealing with pain, I instituted a no pain policy. So whatever it takes to not be in pain works... and although it was frustrating to realize just how often dh had no idea that I was : instead of I just had to tell him.
I've found that after sex was painfree for a while I needed less lube to get things working (stopping the pill helped too).... I think my body was so fearful of the pain I just couldnt' relax, etc.
Dh, Joshua Rebeccaand . for Laura
We use a silicone lube (no parabens, no aloe, no glycerin). It's the number one choice for robots and automatons.
Chasing DS since April 2007 and pumping for DD March 2013.
Oh, yeah, coconut oil is also very helpful in the restoration process. It makes the skin very pliable and soft and "stretchable." DH has been getting very fast results restoring and I attribute some of it to the coconut oil since the main thing we are doing is manual stretching. No devices, just occasional tape or stretching several times a week.
Eggwhites? I have never heard of that. I would think that would be really super sticky. (Coming from a mom who has a kid that like to break eggs on the floor daily)
Semen is the consistency of eggwhite
Your natural vaginal lubricant also is the consistency of eggwhite at times...
they all get rather sticky if you dont wash btw...
Momma to Patrick (8) Corey (7) Lilah- My UBA2C (11 months)
I started using these after the birth of my dd as I needed the added healing benefits -- very long recovery to my perinum, still not 100% nearly 3 years later!
also, she has a Hyena Cart at:
She calls it Yoni Balm, and here's her description:
Originally Posted by dreamseeds
Extra virgin olive oil infused with damiana and marshmallow root
Organic Shea Butter and Cocoa butter
Evening primrose oil
poured into a .5 oz wand. Think of a large lip balm tube.
The scent is very light as to be arousing but not irritating to our sensitive skin.
It feels so awesome being rubbed in those private creases and places that could use a skin soothing kiss. And he will like it too.
$5 plus shipping first class mail (2-3 dollars max)
Marshmallow root lends its mucilage to help heal and protect mucous membranes and varicose veins. It has a soothing effect and is excellent in all sort of herbal medicine.
Damiana is an ancient herb of fertility and aphrodisiac. The pharmacolgy of this herb shows testosterone like alkaloids which can increase libido. It is also said to increase the male sexual system. And this is with external application. Internal application as a tea or tincture is even stronger effect on the reproductive tract.
Nursing mothers should have no problem with this. I would use a wee bit of caution for pregnant mothers due to the testosterone action of the damiana. It is minut but never the less present.
Bulgarian rose has also been added to enhance the female senses-rose makes us feel so feminine and is aphrodisiac in many males and females. rose is antidepressant as well and can calm the nerves.
I have been working with this product due to my own limitations. After having cancer I am continually trying to make my mama parts feel normal again. Lubrication is very important after the whole cancer thing so this is my natural way to increase the strength of my vaginal area with nourishing oils and herbs instead of commercial lubes. That is how this idea came to be. Hope it helps anyone that could use this.
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