Join Date: Aug 2002
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I'm sure this has come up before, but how do you explain to the circ'd son why he is different? (and, I guess to the intact son, as well).
We circ'd our 4-1/2 year old bc. at the time, we thought it was marginally the right thing to do. By the time #2 son was born, we decided it was the wrong choice. #1 son had never noticed the difference until this week in the tub. "Denny's penis looks different". "Yes", my husband said, "everyone's body is different." This seemed like an ok answer for now, but I'm guessing it will come up again, and that someday Denny will ask, as well.
Our plan is to say that when Daddy and Colin were born, doctors were still saying this procedure was probably a good thing, but that by the time Denny was born, the doctors no longer recommended doing it. I want to reassure both boys that their penises are both fine--just different. I don't want to get political with them--you know? I mean, it is too late now, so I just want to reassure them both that they are perfectly fine.