Am supposed to go with my sister in law to visit our new nephew tomorrow. My mother in law just called and casually mentioned that he may be a bit fussy because "he was circumcised today." It was all I could do to keep my mouth shut. In fact, I kind of didn't because I think I gasped "Oh my god, that's AWFUL. The poor guy" and a couple of times started to go there and made myself stop.
It's ultimately none of my business and what hurts most is I'm sure they never even considered not doing it or researched it at all. I don't want to hurt them or say anything because it's too late now, but my heart is breaking and I don't know how I can see him tomorrow and not cry.
You know, it amazes me that more guys are not outraged. They must feel so incredibly driven to not feel "less manly" that they don't go there. But having been with an uncircumcised man for my first marriage, the difference is quite quite apparent. I try not to talk about it too much around my DH because I am enormously sad that he was circumcised (both for himself and for my own selfish reasons,) and I don't want him to feel bad. I know that if we have a boy, he does not want to circumcise and that's a beautiful thing.
I just have to keep my mouth shut and I just want to scream!!!