I'm due in about 2 months, and although I'm not going to find out what I'm having in advance, we're hoping for a boy, since we had our daughter last June. I am completely against circumcision, no two ways about it. However, my mate is just as adamantly pro-circ. Sometimes I hope I'll just luck out and have another girl and can avoid the whole issue again.
We've fought about this issue so much, we can't even seem to try and have just a "discussion" about why we feel and think the way we do. It always seems to erode down to I don't have a penis, so I don't get to vote. Or, it says to do it in the bible, so he's gettting it done. (Not that we're particularly christian, though we follow the dietary rules of the old test., and keep sabbath on saturday. We don't celebrate any holidays.) To him, it's the rule book; to me it's more historical text.
We even said that we would research support for our different sides, and then talk about it. Well, of course I found all kinds of support for me, but I wasn't looking for him. He hasn't really looked for his side, or if he has, hasn't shown me anything. I know he's read the info I've found, since I saved it into it's own folder in the computer, and brings it up occasionally. But he's totally closed his mind to this, and I'm just about at wits end trying to get him to at least acknowledge my side has validity.
I guess at this point I'm wondering how I can keep him from taking our son to a surgeon. I'm sure someone has to sign consent papers, but I never would. Would he be able to have it done w/o my ok? (Assuming he was able to sneak him out of the house...) Since we aren't legally married, his name won't appear on the birth cert. (unless we take extra steps, which we didn't do for our daughter) so technically he wouldn't even have proof he was the father. Ultimately, is it me that has to ok it? It would be a huge load off of my mind if it was. I probably wouldn't even share that with him, it would just make the situation worse, but I would feel better knowing, "Who has the say-so?"
Any help/support is appreciated muchly.