First of all, Welcome to this board!
You've come to a really good place. This board has some very intelligent people (excl. me??)discussing circumcision.
You can ask anything and they will give you the correct answer.
It is so good and smart of you to inform yourself while you have plenty of time to get your husband used to the idea.
And I am sure he will come around.
To leave the baby intact is the only fair and sensible thing to do. After all, why should a baby be sent to surgery within a day or two after he is born. It took nature/God nine months to develop a perfect human being and then we say it's not good enough, we have to make some changes.
You will have time to inform your husband of the importance of the foreskin, its functions, and its pleasures.
Here is a great web site for him to start checking it out, too:www.cirp.org
Your husband was cirked because that was the thing to do. We used to think every boy in the whole world was circumcised. Now we know that outside the U.S. only Jews and Muslims are circumcised and that the rest of the male population in the world is pretty much intact. As a matter of fact 80% of the world male population is intact.
The reason why you had heard of some people who are circumcised at a later age was more than likely because they made too much of an effort to "take care of the penis".
In countries where almost no males are circumcised (all of Europe) they very seldom have to do circumcisions at a later age.
They have learned not to take extra care of it, as you will learn on various sites.
The foreskin is very much like the eye lid. It is there to protect and prevent infections. A foreskin that is treated like an eye lid will most likely never get infected.www.infocirc.org/hyge.htm
We know for a fact that babies suffer pain. The medical society has known it for a long time and has stated that often. They recommend highly that the baby receive pain medication. The problem is that none is really effective. And they all have side effects, some even very severe.
And you are right concerning the "look alike image". When cirk first started in the U.S. (around 1920) no father said his son had to look like him, because most fathers were intact and the mothers had their sons cirked.
And just one more thing, 42% of the boys in the U.S. as of today are intact. So, no matter what you chose for your son, he will always differ from about half the boys he comes in contact with.
60% of the boys in California are intact as of 2001
42% of the rest of the U.S. are intact
99% of the boys in Europe are intact
99% of the boys in Latin America are intact
When you look at the overall view of the world, our U.S. boys are already in the minority and marked by circumcision.
Again, welcome to the board, we are glad you found us.