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View Poll Results: Who wants to circ?
Mom does and we will 0 0%
Mom does and we won't 0 0%
Dad does and we will 4 1.25%
Dad does and we won't 44 13.75%
Neither do 265 82.81%
Both do 7 2.19%
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Old 05-02-2007, 08:30 PM - Thread Starter
 
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It's an anonymous poll.

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I hope I answered that right. I voted "Dad does and we won't." DH would like/ have liked DS circumcised. He was, he sees nothing wrong with it. But I held my ground and basically said he'd have to pry our newborn son out of my arms to have it done and he didn't push it. I know he doesn't actually want to put DS through the pain, so I'm not sure if he'd actually go through with it or not if I'd have said okay. But there's no way I'd have okay'd it anyways.
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DB wanted to circ, we didn't.

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At this point the answer is neither of us. However, when I was pg with our first DH did and I didn't. I did not back down and told him there was no way in hell it was happening. Now, two happy intact boys later....DH doesn't want it either.
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Holy crap. My mentee actually got her boy circed and I saw it today and holy crap that looks HORRENDOUS. I would never do that to my kid....oh my gosh..........aaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Neither. If dh wanted to get a son circumcised then I would insist that he have it done first (though I would miss his foreskin and so would he so that will never happen).

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Oh my gosh I am SO thankful Dh is just as opposed to circ as I am!!

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DH wants to. I wont allow it. This should be fun if I get pregnant with a boy.:
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no baby cutting allowed in this fam

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no baby cutting allowed in this fam
I like this so I will be a copycat and say ditto.
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Dh has wanted to but wisely left the choice up to me...He actually still questions me as to the wiseness of my choice : I don't understand him. We have friends who had to have their sweet babe circed twice because the first circ had so many problems /infections. I told dh if he continued to question me he would be strapped to a chair to watch video clips of circs. : Anyone care to hazard a guess as to wheather he is intact or circed?

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Ummm, I'm not really sure how to answer that. I am NOT going to circ any future son of mine. Unfortunately, it's too late for my first son!
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Ummm, I'm not really sure how to answer that. I am NOT going to circ any future son of mine. Unfortunately, it's too late for my first son!
I'd say answer for what you'll do in the future.

We were both on the fence and left DS intact. Now we're both opposed.
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neither of us. Ds is intact.
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It's interesting to me that nobody has answered that the mom wants it done yet... the only couple I failed to convince not to circumcise was one where the father didn't really care (though he was circumcised) and the mother thought that intact penises were nasty and insisted that it be done...

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I think we're a "neither wants it". I don't think dh is entirely against it, but when I presented it as more of a non-decision-- Hey, let's leave things as-is, so the child can make his own decision when he's an adult--he saw the sense in that and agreed. (yeah, most here know that the kid will most likely be glad he's intact, but hey, I knew my audience and knew what argument would work! )
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Neither of us want any DS's circ'd. DH was unsure at first, but when presented with very little researching showing it wasn't needed - he began to admit he wished his Mom hadn't had him circ'd. Needless to say, it was a no brainer when our DS's were born.
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At first dh totally wanted it, I put my foot down and said no. Now we're both against it for any future sons

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The "dad does and we will" makes me feel very sorry for the mom who's probably going to regret it.

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I voted neither want it. But that wasn't 100% the case when ds was born. I was very against it and dh doesn't argue. He figured I did the research and so it must be for the best. Now he is very anti circ. It just took a bit of time for him.
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Ok - I am ready to hear from the both do crowd.
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Hopefully, here on Mdc, most folks would never do this to innocent babies. I'm surprised anyone even felt the need for a poll. This is the case against circ forum, after all.
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Hopefully, here on Mdc, most folks would never do this to innocent babies.
Oh no, a fair amount of people do it (hospital circumcisions not ritual) if you look around in other threads...they just don't come to the anti-circ board to post about it.

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i'm like the first poster. i put dad does and we wont but really it was he is circed and sees nothing wrong with it so he just assumed ds would be too. i presented my arguments and since i had more arguments and stronger feelings about it he didn't push the subject. same with vaxing, totally my call i just inform him of what i've decided - he asks why- i tell him and he says okay.
basicly he says i've done the reaserch so he will let me make the calls.

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neither of us do now, but when i was pregnant with our first he did and we would have, but we were blessed with a girl.

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Hopefully, here on Mdc, most folks would never do this to innocent babies. I'm surprised anyone even felt the need for a poll. This is the case against circ forum, after all.
Yeah, I don't think we will get a true reading from this poll. Most cutters here don't like to frequent CAC, denile and all Sadly, even MDCers are not immune to social conditioning on this issue, check out the "Not so crunchy" style threads and birth boards.

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The "dad does and we will" makes me feel very sorry for the mom who's probably going to regret it.
And I feel sorry for the boy in this situation and the ones where the answer was "Both do."
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I voted "neither wants it" because "other" wasn't an option.

In reality, I am against it. DF doesn't have an opinion one way or the other. Sometimes he wishes he wasn't circ'd, but since he hasn't experienced being uncirc'd, so he couldn't say which our son would prefer. So when I asked him if he would want to circ a future son, he said, "I don't know." When I said I don't, he said, "okay".
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OP, you forgot "other". There's always an "other"

My son is intact, and any future sons will be intact. But...we actually did plan to circumcise our son. We even had an appointment to have it done. But, in the end, we just couldn't go through with it.

I had always leaned toward not doing it. It seemed like a pointless and cruel practice to me. My husband is circumcised and wasn't sure what all the fuss was about, but was open minded. While I was pregnant I researched the subject and read a lot of information here and elsewhere that convinced me that we shouldn't do it. My husband and I agreed not to have it done.

That agreement held until my mother asked me what we were planning to do. She was horrified, and regaled us with family stories of infection and discomfort. She was very convincing, especially to my husband, and we decided to reconsider. We convinced ourselves that circumcision was "the norm" and that we'd be doing our son a favor by having it done while he was a baby so he wouldn't "have to have it done later".

When my son was born, I knew I couldn't go through with it. We declined the circ in the hospital, ostensibly because "our" pediatrician wasn't available to do it. We did make an appointment to have it done later, but I knew already that we'd never go to it.

When we got home I put the appointment slip on the kitchen table, and looking at it would make me burst into tears. One day I pointed to it on the table and said to my husband "we need to get rid of this". We put the appointment slip in the shredder and never looked back.

See why there needs to be an "other"?
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