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#61 of 72 Old 06-06-2007, 07:17 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I just called the birthing unit where I will give birth and asked them about this.
She told me that she has NEVER dealt with this problem! She said most parents agree.
I explained the problem and she told me that she JUST today had a father sign the conscent form. Because only ONE parent needs to sign. Though it would likely be given to me since I am the patient.
She gave me the name and number of their social worker who will know all about the legalities of this. But that I could have it put in my chart ahead of time so it would be refused if DH asked.
But she said my OB doesn't do it. Only 2 Dr.s at the hospital do.

I'm fully expecting that our Dr. and I (and the 100 or so pages of info) will convince him in time.
If not, I'll have my ducks in a row with the hospital prior to check in.
I'll keep ya posted! (Oh, and I'm in Ontario)
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when i hear about men saying they want the baby to look like them, i wonder how they would respond to the question "who is it important to? the baby? or daddy?" cuz i am 100% sure the baby doesn't care! and that leaves daddy wanting to cut up his child for his own desires. it has nothing to do with the baby at all.

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when i hear about men saying they want the baby to look like them, i wonder how they would respond to the question "who is it important to? the baby? or daddy?" cuz i am 100% sure the baby doesn't care! and that leaves daddy wanting to cut up his child for his own desires. it has nothing to do with the baby at all.
Exactly! It's for Daddy's emotional comfort, not the child's IMO. Believe me, he'll hear this over and over until he sees the light.

ETA--JUST spoke to the hospital social worker. What a doll. She even said at the end that we could have some really great talks about raising kids-as we also talked about her attached son and my very attached DD. :-)
She is also a marriage councellor and she walked me through this.
She is placing my wishes in my chart right now. It is now documented that I am 100% against this. DH can't do this on his own. (Not that I really think he would try) But I feel SO much better that my ducks are in a row. I feel protected now.
And I still have 3 months to get DH on board.
The 2 dr.s that do the cutting at my hospital are the 2 Dr.s that delivered DD. I just saw one of them recently. There is a one in 8 (I think) chance that one of them will be delivering DS.
I know I will come across as a loud mouth-but ya know--I'm really OK with that
I'll keep you up to date on DH and the Dr.s appt tomorrow. LOL
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HOLY S***, I thik he has relented!
I'm exhausted tonight, so don't want topush the issue. But we did talk tonight and although he still says he wants him to look like him, it was much more lighthearted and said he would let it go...if he could name him. Then I said, well, nothing hideous.
He joked that he liked Rock.
I don't care at this point-as long as he stays intact!
I'll update tomorrow! But so far, so good for tonight!
Fingers crossed! (My youngest says he is going to name his son 'Rock of Fierceness'. It's a nice little name. You could get used to it :.)
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I'm so sorry about your dh changing again!: It sounds like you're really doing a good job preparing, though! Its good that the social worker is helping out.
I hope that the dr's visit goes well!

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I think Rock is a cool name.

If you still have any worries come delivery time, you do not ever have to let the baby out of your room for anything. Hospital staff will give you a hard time, but there are no newborn procedures that can't be done in your room, it is just an inconvenience for the staff. Much easier to have the babies lined up assembly-line style in the nursery, but is that better for the patient or for the staff?? Of course you can just go with if they want to take him, but you really don't have to let him go out of the room at all.
Good luck with your husband. It is so sad what happened to so many men when they were babies 20, 30, 40 years ago. And the fallout continues as so many deal with the trauma by doing it to their sons, then they can rest assured that "it was done to me because it was NECESSARY, that's why I HAD to do it to my son too."
Best to your family.

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I like how they attribute circumcision of females as abuse, yet they don't think the same of males being circumsized.

Circ doesn't work! Stop the violence of circumcison. Had another UP/UC/HB in August!
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I like how they attribute circumcision of females as abuse, yet they don't think the same of males being circumsized.
Male circumcision is listed under the section "Child abuse" and they call it mutilation and say it should be illegal. What part are you talking about?

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I think Rock is a cool name.

I knew a boy named Rock.

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