I want to discuss and share ideas for tactics you would use when faced with this situation.
What things have worked for you? If you havent faced this situation yet, what ideas do you have for dealing with this?
If you are a mom facing this situation or a mom who has faced this, what information/actions/conversations do feel are/were most effective?
Perpetually breastfeeding or pregnant ENFP mom to a lot of kids...wife to a midwestern nice guy...living in tropical paradise...pink cats and homebirths rock!
While you may feel his word is final, I am sure you have some say in that word and that expressing your opinion and backing it up with facts is allowed (i hope!). You don't have to push him or force him but educate him instead.
You say that someone else will protect your son, but look at the boys who have died, the boys who have lost their glans, the boys with webbed, trapped or buried penises.
The only protection against these is to not cut the genitals of your children.
(not sure how much i am allowed to say due to the religion ban)
I'm not discussing religion. But that is what I believe and it is a BIG part of my decision. He could die whether or not I get him circumcised. And what I meant by my son's circumcision not done right was it's loose only on one side.
Are you seriously saying that you don't have a say in ANYTHING, and you're just a servant to your husband's wishes?
Wow, just wow. I thought those sort of arrangements were confined to third world countries and history. So much for all the hard work on equalities that are supposed to make women partners rather than slaves. Welcome to antiquity. I suppose you'll be beating your sons for discipline, and stoning neighbours as well?
If you do gather information/advice about this, don't pm it to me. I understand where you are coming from. But God said in the Bible that the husband makes the final decision and I will follow God's Word and I trust that he will protect my children in every situation. That's all I have to say. I don't want any pm's about this. Just don't talk to me or read my posts. You can use the information gathered here for other moms.
I don't think you're all that anti-circ, you want it done and I can see nothing is going to change your mind. Godspeed and good luck to your son. I hope he doesn't suffer from any life-threatening complications as a result of your decision.
From a page written by a devout Christian mother with three intact sons:
|I am constantly dumbfounded by new mothers I know who have strong feelings against circumcision yet choose to leave the decision up to their husbands thinking that they should make the choice since they are men. This, in many cases, leads to their baby boys being altered and leaves the women feeling sorrow. This concerns me. Why aren't women standing up for their infant sons? As a Christian I believe that the husband is ultimately the head of the house hold and decision maker (after consulting with the family of course). I respect him for this, for his role as provider etc. and he respects us mothers as the bearers and caregivers of the children. But this does not mean that we are to forget or ignore our God given instincts as mothers to protect the purity of our sons bodies as God created them.|
More at this link
Circumcision: A Test Case for Evaluating Old Testament Laws
What the Bible Really Says About Routine Infant Circumcision
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Please ask yourself this: If your husband were from a culture that circumcised girls, and he told you that he wanted to have your daughter circumcised, would you allow that?
There is no difference between circumcising little girls and circumcising little boys. Christians have absolutely NO religious reason to do it. There is no medical justification for it. It is done because people believe myths about normal genitals and normal sexuality and are unwilling to put aside their prejudices. It hurts babies terribly and it can kill them. It also hurts mothers. I hope you will come back here for information and encouragement to protect your son and your bond with him. Best of luck!