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My husband is circumcised. In fact, I've never seen an adult intact penis (in real life - I have seen pictures of them).
Same here. I've seen unirced children in daycares I worked in (very few ), but I've never seen an adult uncirced penis, except in pictures.

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I really hate the term babydaddy. I'm not 17!
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I have never seen an intact penis on a man. I have seen photos and I am not going to lie it is ugly as hell if you ask me... BUT... that is no reason to make my son suffer through a barbaric procedure so he will be left with all his little parts.
Actually, if you really look at them, aren't all penises, circed and uncirced, kinda ugly?

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I've never knowlingly been with an uncirc'ed man. I'm not sure about some of the men I've had casual encounters with when I was 18, but any "real relationships" I've had have been with Jewish men who had a Bris Milah in infancy.

ITA that adult penises are not exactly pretty to look at whether they're circ'ed or not. And baby penises just look like cute little baby penises whether they're circ'ed or not. And little boy penises just look like "Go get some clothes on already and stop running around half naked" no matter the circ status.

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Actually, if you really look at them, aren't all penises, circed and uncirced, kinda ugly?
I was trying to find a nice way to say that! I agree.

As for the original question, dh and any other adult penis I've glimpsed has been circed


Back to the theme of 'ugly'. There are some 'nicer' galleries of intact penises...I would puzzle that someone would actually find ALL of them ugly. I think often what men think is 'pleasing' is far different than what women find pleasing visually-- so if you come across sites that have images from an articstic standpoint, you might actually find more that you might not find ugly. That probably goes for both circed and intact.

For example, the gallery of intact art http://www.circumstitions.com/Art3.html shows many popular classical nudes (such as Michaelangelos David, Leonardo da Vinci's "Vitruvian man"). One of the moms on my mainstream expecting club posted a link to a photo gallery (tasteful nudes, all intact), because so many people had such a misguided notiion of what an intact penis looked like. I have no idea what the site was, but I think it was the first time I didn't think a penis WAS ugly.

But it did feel weird to look. But then again, now it just feels WEIRD that I had to look at a site to see what a normal adult penis should look like.

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I think the term baby daddy is funny I use it when ever possible, especially when my husband isn't living up to his fatherly duties like changing diapers.

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Actually, if you really look at them, aren't all penises, circed and uncirced, kinda ugly?
Do not think me weird but when I see an erect penis I get all happy inside. lol I LOVE the male form.... now you want to talk UGLY> The vagina. lol
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My DP is intact and is from Scotland.

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My DP is cut but he was 5 when it was done and he remembers the pain clearly. When I met him I already had two sons and when boy #3 was born he didn't argue one bit about keeping him intact.
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My father was born in Germany, and is intact.

My husband was born in the Mid-West and is (surprisingly) intact. (Yay!)

The only other penises I have ever seen were those of my nephews during diaper changes - two born in America to my sister were circumcized ("to look like Daddy"). My best friend (who is closer than my sister) adopted a little boy from Eastern Europe and his looked like an elephant trunk! LOL! (He was 14 months old when he came home, and it's likely that he was "retracted" because his was fully retractable : )

ETA: Not all penises are ugly. My DH's penis is BEAUTIFUL!
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Yes, he is. Any future sons will be left intact.

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My dh is circ'd. Ds isn't. Dh has been my only partner.
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He was circ'ed.

I've had mostly circ'ed partners, but a few longterm boyfriends who were intact. For me, it's not better or worse, just different. For DH though, it's not as good as it would have been if he was just left alone, and that's sad. He is against circ completely.

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I don't think penises are ugly at all. And I find it disturbing to see exposed glans on an infant.. nothing at all "cute" about it. :
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I don't think penises are ugly at all. And I find it disturbing to see exposed glans on an infant.. nothing at all "cute" about it. :
I agree. I've sadly seen a few from playgroups, etc. It just looks so abnormal. The normal colored shaft skin and then a bluish/pink giant glans exposed :, it's really obvious to see on an infant that the glans IS an internal organ as it was meant to be.

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I think the term baby daddy is funny I use it when ever possible, especially when my husband isn't living up to his fatherly duties like changing diapers.
I use it all the time too. I think it's hilarious. My exhusband calls me "baby momma" too lol. I love to say baby daddy to my mom because she gets all mad (she works in a jail so I guess she hears it a lot and from not so nice people. She tells me I sound like an inmate haaaaa)

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I think the term baby daddy is funny I use it when ever possible, especially when my husband isn't living up to his fatherly duties like changing diapers.

See, I find it offensive. now in the OP it just annoys me to no end. It wasn't specifically directed to me. If t was, yeah, offensive. I'm not that kind of girl! As I said, I'm not 17, I've never been on Springer, and there was no confusion as to who my child's father is!
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My guy is cut. Only one boyfriend wasn't, and he was how I first learned about the anti-circ movement, actually!

DP is totally supportive of not circumcising our son, however.

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my husband is cut, but in the process of restoring (yay!!)
every guy I've been with has been cut
I've seen intact men at the nude beach, and I thought they were beautiful Cut men just look mutilated to me now. DS is intact of course

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My dh is, as was every other man I have known.
me too...

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See, I find it offensive. now in the OP it just annoys me to no end. It wasn't specifically directed to me. If t was, yeah, offensive. I'm not that kind of girl! As I said, I'm not 17, I've never been on Springer, and there was no confusion as to who my child's father is!
me too...I think it sounds juvenile, personally...

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My DH's penis is BEAUTIFUL!
Mine too - my husband's, that is.
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Yes, all of my partners have been circ'd. But DH did say (before we found out DD was a girl) we were not circ'ing if we had a boy. He has two sons from a previous marriage and they are not circ'd.

Also, (TMI from my mom) my dad is not circ'd.
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I've never heard the term baby-daddy, I thought it was a typo-- or just the posters nick name of how to say it. Thought it was cute- but not something I would use.

Lol.

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My DH is cut. He was sure that our son would be until I showed him just what circumcision was. Like most cut men he didn't really know that anything had been done to him. He is very sad about it and was very against having the same thing done to his son. That was a huge relief.

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yes he is circed, wishes he wasnt. Hes the only person I have ever had sex with.

None of our boys are. I have seen very few intact men.

I worked in hospitals and nursing homes as a teen and rarely saw intact men, once in a while I would but it was extremely uncommon. I'm really, really hoping for a change.

At least we have ended it with our children we are the first in each of our families to stop the tradition of male genital mutilation.
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See, I find it offensive. now in the OP it just annoys me to no end. It wasn't specifically directed to me. If t was, yeah, offensive. I'm not that kind of girl! As I said, I'm not 17, I've never been on Springer, and there was no confusion as to who my child's father is!
I thought anyone would recognize it came in a jokey manner, to soften a personal question. I aplogize if it annoyed you to no end, it wasn't my intention.
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My dh is intact. He was born/raised in India and circ is not part of that culture at all. We had agreed not to circ our kids, but as it turned out we had girls.

I also don't like babydaddy-- I have been married to my dh for close to 12 years. Maybe next time use "the father of your child".

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my dh is intact, and his was the first intact penis i saw, i think i was 16? hehe, anyhow although his buddies teased him about it i never saw it as an issue, actually thought it was cool and told his mum so. Mostly my other partners were cut, never made a difference to me, although i think i prefer intact, just seems normal, which it is. Obviously when ds is born in another 4 weeks his will be left alone.

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My DH is circ'd but is at the beginning of the restoration process. My DSs are the only males (adult or child) on either side of our family that are intact. :

It's sad, out of all the penises I have met in my personal life, (more than 10, fewer than 20) not one has been intact! I grew up in the midwest, though, and circ rates have historically been very high there.
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I also don't like babydaddy-- I have been married to my dh for close to 12 years. Maybe next time use "the father of your child".
It was a JOKE. You know, like ha ha. Sheez! "The father of your child" doesn't sound very funny to me. I've apologized, and now I'm dropping it.
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Nope. He's not and no future sons will be either. His father is circumcised though and my dh is VERY glad they don't "match" Both my brothers were circumcised, but my youngest brother had complications so my mom is totally on board with her (future) grandsons remaining intact. My siblings are all much younger than I am so I'm hoping that I have a boy before they do. That way intact will be normal to them and I'll have intact nephews too

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