Before we even got pregnant we had discussed the topic and decided that if we had a son we would not circumsize him. When I did become pregnant I did a lot of research on the topic which only confirmed my decision.
For those of you with intact husbands was this the initial deciding factor in not circ. your son?
I would love to hear how you came to the decision whether you DH is circ. or not.
I don't think that my DH being intact is as important as the family history of being intact. If he was circed for whatever reason we still wouldn't have circed our son.
I don't remember really thinking about what DH's penis looked like the first several times I saw it. Maybe it just didn't register because that was how penises were 'supposed' to look to me. It's only when not erect that there is a truly noticeable difference anyway (if you aren't really paying attention, that is).
Mama, homeschooler, midwife. DD (13yo), DS (11yo), DD (8yo), DD (3yo), somebody new coming in November 2013.
My relatives are all intact (that I know of) but that wasn't a big part of my decision at all because my family is Catholic so they don't talk about anything even tangentially related to sex.
dp is NOT intact, and I had some adjustments to make to get used to it.
I'm NOT saying which I prefer. :LOL
DP's brother was exspecting a baby last year and when we asked him if he was going to circ if he has a son he asked us "what is that" OMG I can't believe how many people dont know what that is- and this is a circ'ed man we are talking about. His answer was "of course" Well, we talked to him- but I dont know if he changed his mind- he had a daughter too.
Then I was talking to my cousing when I was pregnant and I told him that my son would stay intact and he asked me "you mean you are not going to give him a vacectomy (sp)" and he has a circ'ed son
My sister told me- "I hope you have a girl because I will not change any diapers if you have a boy- it is gross not to have him circ'ed": And this is a girl that circ'ed her son and at 4 years old he told me that it hurt and the doctor did that to him right after he was born. (he told me this as we were watching a national geographic program about Africa and there was a kid getting circ'ed)
I hope I have a son some day- I will give this world a kind and gentle man that is intact and educated!
[B][I]~Ang~ Mom to 2 sport-head crazy girls: Rainey and Breeze and my little lost love- @18 weeks with gestational age of 7 weeks
RAINBOW BABY DUE MAY 4th!!!
The fact that dh is intact did play a part in our choice to leave our son intact (age 15 months). I had a dd from a previous (short) marriage, and then my dh and I also had a dd. If my first child had been a boy, I am certain I would have circ'd. I was 20 years old (almost 10 years ago), and knew nothing different. I knew what circ was but didnt even really consider leaving intact, it just didnt come to mind at all! (So glad she was a girl! )
I mean - you'd have to go out of your way to ask for your son to be circumcised...and I'm pretty sure you'd need to have some kind of justification for your actions.
We have two daughters, but we'd never circumcise a boy (obviously!).
-Alice, SAHM to dd (2001) and ds (2004) each of whom was a , who each self-weaned at 4.5 years , who both 'd, who were both, and both: . Also, , and !
BTW - our family is Catholic and we discuss everything openly. I am sorry to say my sister circumcised both her sons because that was what her husband wanted. I tried to gently persuade but got no where. Of course that was 18 years ago, today I would probably not be quite so gentle about it.