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|I felt really awkward but I had to bring it up with her because I was afraid she was recommending the proceedure to her friends for their kids or something, something had to be done and it was up to me. She was reading and I came up and started talking about how I was really shy about this and wouldnt normally bring it up but I felt I had to... and said "how would you feel.... if I was unhappy with your decision to have me circumcised?"
that last word I could bearly speak I was so nervous
it took her a second or two to answer but she said "oh, well, we researched it and it was very important to us that we made the right choice and even though it was a 'fad ' not to do it at the time and the nurse tried to talk us out of it and I said it was none of her business we still did it and we felt it was the right choice." or something like that. I was pretty pissed because that seemed pretty naive to pick the choice that cant be undone over the one that would be okay. especially since all of my friends are intact.
I started talking to her about how it should have been my choice and I was really unhappy with it and that I felt taken advantage of. it was really easy to talk about once I got started and she was actually kind of supportive. I even told her about how I was almost done restoring !!!! she was shocked that I was different but actually impressed that I was working on it. I even told her I was wearing one of the restoring things right then and she was so amazed. she tried to talk me out of it though with how intact people give girls cancer or something and I was like "I'll take my chances thanks" and kept repeating all of the statistics from online that I know now
We actually got into the restoring stuff a lot because I was telling her that even though we couldnt undo the damge now I at least had a pretty generous cutting done... still had my frenulum and about half of my original inner foreskin... which Ive now stretched almost completely into a full one. I really think she is excited for me to be so happy and unique in our family. she kept asking me if I was gay though and I said no, only a little bisexual maybe. I was just letting it all out
I'm happy because I told her now that she can expect to see me naked around the house more often when I'm done restoring I can walk around and not raise any questions, but I couldnt tell my dad because hes cut and I think he would feel embarrassed. I feel so much better but until I'm done restoring it wont be the end of this chapter of my life
-Male 14, cut USA
Mom & RN
Pardon the typos - CWOK (cat walking on keyboard)
That's wonderful that he feels confident enough to talk to his mom about his restoring and his feelings on being cut. I do find it odd that his mom kept asking him if he was gay. What difference does that make in terms of restoring? I wonder if she thinks only homosexual men like foreskin or something?
Good for him for speaking up. Maybe he can save a foreskin or two now that his mom knows the consequences on the boy in which it's performed. I hope all parents will think about that before they circumcise their child - not all babies will appreciate the choice the parents make for them.
Still, this is the way it's going to end - when the MEN refuse to accept being mutilated.
One of the reason FGM is outlawed is b/c women won't stand for it! The day will come when men won't put up with any form of genital cutting either.
perspective, the post mentioned that all of his friends are intact. Where is he from?
|I hope it's mothers and fathers who will be talking to their sons. It's interesting that the boy would not talk to his dad about it.|
Perspective, I've been lurking on your threads. I haven't had much time to post, thanks to the holidays. But I just want to say how much I've enjoyed your posts. It's people like you who will end Routine Infant Circumcision. Thank you for your input!
|It's people like you who will end Routine Infant Circumcision.|
Thank you ^_^
I dont know why, but thats one of the nicest compliments I have gotten in a while. But, out of curiosity, why do you think that?
|Does this kid have a blog or something? This sounds so familiar to me and I can't figure out why.
Thanks for sharing.
Well, I'm a member of the Baby Boom generation. By and large, most of us unthinkingly had our sons circumcised, never questioning why it needed to be done. "The doctor says so" was good enough reason for most of us.
The only reason my own sons, now in their 20's, were left intact is that I chose to have my babies at home, and I was lucky to have some savvy midwives who convinced me that circumcision was unnecessary. But I never thought it was anything more than a little snip. After all, the fathers of my sons were both circ'ed, so a circ'ed penis was "natural" to me. It wasn't until I started reading the CAC board that I became truly educated about circumcision.
Your generation has had the benefit of the Internet. All kinds of things which used to be widely accepted are now being questioned. Circumcision is one of these. People are finding out what is really involved with circ. Maybe I'm being overly optimistic, but I don't think so.
By the way, my sons are quite happy that they're intact. So much for the locker room myth, at least in my family.
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