Keri & Nathan Alexander 34w2d
settle down, not worth the stress to your unborn babe.
But, it does sound like you need to have a heart to heart with your DH and find out his underlying reasons. Then, it will be easier to convert him and make this a win win situation. I would also provide him with LOTS of anti circ info. Mothering has a great publication and there are lots of great books
Has he ever witnessed a circ? It really is not a nice way to enter the world. I have a few links with some info that might help, I hope it does.
Risks and complications,
http://www.circumcisionquotes.com (then go to "the issues" then to "STDs/Complications/Caring for the penis" Then scroll down on the left to "Complications of circumcision with photos"
If he comes up with any reason as to why he wants this done, please come back and let us know, maybe we can find something spacific to help.
Take care and let us know how things go,
Protect Your Uncircumcised Son: Expert Medical Advice for Parents
Mothering explores why circumcision is hardly ever necessary, and how parents can empower themselves to avoid ceding to the "claims" of the billion-dollar-a-year circumcision industry.
If you want the article about this, Frank posted the links in another thread that I told this story in a while back.
Not only did he totally remove the glans of that boy, another doctor did the very same thing the same day at the same hospital. It has never been made known publicly what happened to the other boy, whether he had a sex change operation or not. The parents of one of the boys settled with the insurance company for $23 million but it has never been made public what happened to the other. We may be hearing something more on this soon. The boys are nearing 18 years old and the settlement was with the equipment manufacturer. I would not be surprised to see a suit against the hospital and doctor in the near future when these boys are able to sue on their own.
It's just amazing how much secrecy there is in these cases!
Back on topic: Keri, this must be very hard for you, especially since your precious baby is going to be born so soon! While you're working on your dh, make sure to tell your OB, your pediatrician, and the hospital - in writing - that you do not consent to a circumcision and will sue anyone who gets near your son with a scalpel.
Tell your husband that it's your baby's body, and no one but your baby has the right to make a decision to cut off a piece of it. Then tell your husband that if he wants to undergo a circumcision without anesthesia, fine, but he still doesn't get to do it to your innocent baby!
Hang in there, mama. Deep calming breaths. It will be OK!
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I will probably include this in my folder for my own dh who was circed around age 5. I too am very curious why your intact husband would want to cut his son.Do let us know what you find out and best wishes to you.
My dh is on/off pro-circ for social and religious reasons,and I always tell him it will be the last thing he(and who ever participates) does in this life.
Yeah! I like that wishy-washy, gentle, non-confrontational approach. I assume you are holding a 12 gauge as you are saying it? :LOL (Where is the shotgun icon?)
You need to find out why your husband suddenly had a change of mind. If I could guess, maybe he heard from friends or co-workers about the "social" issues, or the like. Who knows- but it just seems like maybe he heard a scare-tactic and however irrational that might be, he got scared. Or maybe he just wants his son to feel "American". (Again, irrational, but.....)
Here is my site on info. You are welcome to print out and show him whatever you think he might benefit from. Or just send him the whole link to read at his leisure. http://www.CircumcisionQuotes.com/
I just wanted to add that DH assumed we would circ ("what's the big deal?"). I looked at him, and said "well, if you really want it done, you have to go in with him and watch him be tied to a board while they cut skin off his penis." I'm not always one for mincing words....
He looked at me and said "well, if you feel that strongly about it." Yeah. I do. If nothing else, I feel that strongly about ELECTIVE SURGERY on my 12 hour old baby.
I hope this gets straightened out for you...
~amey with daniel and nicholas