|I guess I’m getting used to the thought of having a boy, but I don’t think it will really hit me until later when I’m actually having to deal with the boy parts!!|
I want to be polite and succinct...maybe in a sentence include a few of the basic reasons not to...and maybe suggest one or 2 websites...not too much. I don't want to be too pushy.
Oh, BTW, I let her borrow my Sears' Birth Book (she had a C-section the first time and I suggested she consider a VBAC...her section was beacuse dr 'would rather section than use forceps')...and sneakily put inside a copy of the Fleiss article. I scribbled on it and made it look used...this was before she found out what she was having...
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"You mean having to deal with gauze, vaseline, weeping, pain and the possiility of infections or doing nothing?"
That may be an eye-opening question for her.
"Yeah--the hardest part of the whole 'boy parts' thing is dealing with the madmen who don't like 'boy parts' left whole, natural and intact. They just don't realize that nobody does that anymore!"
Of course, that's me.
When asked by the ILs and other detractors, "Are you still breastfeeding?" my answer is "Of course!" in a tone
Anyhow, respond assuming that she will leave him whole and intact.
If it seems that they are considering otherwise, use your best therapist's voice and ask, "Why would you do that?" (Not too outraged, but genuinely curious.) Follow up with, "Why do you think that?" etc. Then you'll know if you're dealing with someone rational or not. I'm assuming that this is a married woman, so I don't see what the issue is with 'boys parts', but maybe it's just her sense of humor!
As I started to say earlier before my post was prematurely posted. . .
I carefully choose my response.
"Still breastfeeding?" "Of course!" (tone implies that to do otherwise would be negligent and shocking.)
"Not circumcised?" "Of course not! Nobody does THAT anymore!" (tone implies that this practice is as bizarre as foot-binding or giving babies laudanum--nevermind that benadryl is the sedative of choice now, but that's another rant entirely.) "He's whole and complete, just as nature intended." (very affectiontely said, with love and pride for every little bit of him.)
My daughter has a small cafe au lait mark on her cheek, and you'd be surprised at how rude people can be about it--right in front of her! My mantra is, "That's where I kissed her before she was born--isn't it perfect!" in that same loving voice. She feels sorry that her brother only has a little strawberry mark under his hairline and no nice cafe au lait marks like her!
Ok, now I'm rambling. Gotta go.
|Thanks for the information|
"Don't worry about dealing with boy parts -- there's nothing to it. Unless someone removes his foreskin -- then you have to deal with all kinds of problems!"
-Alice, SAHM to dd (2001) and ds (2004) each of whom was a , who each self-weaned at 4.5 years , who both 'd, who were both, and both: . Also, , and !
She had just had a boy too! ANd I just said "That's how X (her baby) was born too!".