I was really nervous to bring up (again) male anatomy and circumcision issues with dh.He is home for only a few days at a time,and no time seems the right time.Plus most people were telling me to not bring it up unless the issue(circing son) comes to a forefront.Well I just couldn't stand all that waiting around and not saying anything for years, so I just started with," Well honey I have finished my research into male anatomy and circumcision related issues.So if you want to know more (because I would sure like to sit down with you and show you all that I have learned) you just let me know when you are ready." I told him a little about the parts that are lost due to circumcision,and how it is just plain silly(and cruel) to cut off the most sensitive part of our sons genitals for outdated notions.
We talked a little about his own circ.I wanted to know what he remembered,and how the adults explained to him what was to happen.I am hoping he will get that photo album,and then we can talk about it again with the kids too.He says he doesn't remember much.Just that it was told that it is something to make him cleaner,and is a part of his religion.Said he did not really think about it with all the toys and candy around until the actual moment came.He remembers his brother having to much cut off and needing stiches.They were 5.
Said it was fine if we did not circ son,but that his parents are sure to bring it up later on(probalby want to host/pay for the lavish party).He plans to give them his usual response,"We'll see."He says that all the time instead of saying no, and then fighting with his parents(which he feels isn't a proper thing to do).
I am still going to show him all that I have learned,because as I told him," I don't want to just force this on you.If you read everything that I have you will see that it is so very wrong to do this to boys/girls,and our children deserve better from us.
Told him,"Any God that would want us to mutilate our children is no God we need to follow." Then I got into my next *research* topic which was religion(so far I studied judaism,christianity,and islam). He said it was ok to raise the kids without a set religion,yea!!!!!!
Said we can teach morals just fine without it
This reminds me when I was reading about Mohammed it was stated in a few places that he was born circumcised.Well this to me means that he just had a short foreskin,but he was able to enjoy all the sensitivity and normalcy(sp) of an uncut penis(he had all his parts).And yet he supposidly said as part of fitrah(5 things to make you cleaner/pure) to cut off your foreskin because it is the harborer of filth.Anyway that was interesting to know.If anyone can back that up or counter it then let me know.I hate to give out wrong info.
Oh I forgot to mention I also brought up foreskin restoration.Another VERY touchy subject.I did not know how to mention it without making it seem like I had a problem with him.I don't ofcourse.Our sex life is fine,but I don't think it would hurt for any circed man to get a little extra skin down there on the shaft since circumcision almost always removes way to much.I mentioned increased sensitivity to which ofcourse he said he was sensitive enough.I get that a lot from circed men.Not sure how to counter that.Anyway I will show him a resotre site and drop the issue.
So I feel a little bit better having brought it up again,but I don't think I will feel 100% at ease till I hear my son say to us that he would never cut off or let anyone cut of parts of his genitals.
What circumcision takes away:http://www.norm.org/lost.html