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#1 of 6 Old 11-01-2003, 08:28 PM - Thread Starter
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hi moms - i have a problem

my son dylan (almost 12 years old) has not been circumcised. (i have 4 happily uncircumcised boys). his foreskin never retracted. there is a tiny hole just big enough for urine to pass through. he has never had an infection or any obvious problem with it.

many years ago i took him to a urologist in houston with the hope of doing a z-plasty (which i read about on www.circ) to open the top a little. he would not consider it and said we should do a circumsicion "because it is the norm in our community". i did not go back.

i read an article by a new york doctor on one of the internet sites (this one i think) about a steroid cream that is sometimes successful at allowing the skin to stretch. i contacted him by phone and he suggested i get a prescription of the cream and try it. we used it for about 8 to 10 weeks and it did seem to help a little but not enough to stretch it all the way.

here is it many years later. i woke up this morning realizing he is almost 12 and wondering what will happen when he begins to masterbate (and of course, have sex in later years). the concern is that there is no way for the ejaculate to get out. the hole is tiny.

do you know any doctors in houston who are concerned about circumcision? is there a data base of like minded doctors? i hope to find someone knowledge about about this particular problem. i may need to have some type of incision done by someone very conservative.

i would appreciate any help you can give - or you may be able to forward this to someone who can help? thank you for getting the word out and helping countless boys stay intact.

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Hi there Janice. Have there are a couple of organizations that might be able to help you out. Doctors opposing circumcision and NOCIRC. I think they both keep a registry of foreskin friendly doctors in the U.S. and Canada.

Good luck and keep us posted.
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Janice and Lillirose:

There are gentle stretching these men in your lives can perform that will loosen that foreskin in just a few weeks. Here is a discussion forum that can provide the details for you:


The cream you mentioned was most likely betamethesone .05% and is not necessary but can speed up the process.

The actual incidence of this problem is not known but is estimated at about 2% to 3% of intact men. It is in no way, shape or form an indication for circumcision, not even Z plasty. Z plasty cuts the frenar band and thus disables the stretch receptors that are sexually sensitive. It would be the equivalent of cutting the sphincter muscles at the vaginal entrance in a woman.

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I asked my intact husband about this. He says that he wasn't fully retractable until he was in his late teens.

And he says that the gradual process of becoming retractable happened during his teenage years, and was quite...ummm...pleasurable!

Perhaps this is what will happen with your son?
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sometimes foreskin retraction doesn't happen until the teenage years, so give it some more time.
In meantime I have read several things about it not being retractable until the boy is 14, 15 or 16 yrs. old. So, don't worry

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