That has got to be a tough book for you to read, but I think you should try to remember that the majority of the trauma he is speaking about is coming from the SUPRESSION of emotion and the DENIAL of accountability to the man... the refusal of society to acknowledge the harm done... not so much of a focus of the actual traumatic event... but a focus on the ong term effects of pretending that it was nothing....so- it may be possible to avoid a lot of that, simply by being the mom you already ARE!
And mamajulie, I do recomend the book to read, just so you know what it is all about. It's not really all that bad, I mean- it's rough- but not any more than the NOHARM or NORM website. The author does not really state a lot of facts, the book is more of an invitation to inquiry- he raises a lot of questions. He might make some comments about this study or that study and then say, -circumcision is kind of like that... someone should study that and see if it holds true. To continue circumcising people without studying that is irresponsible. So in the end, it's not like Ron Goldman is droping a ton of bricks... it's like he is pointing out a whole bunch of individual bricks and noting that they might fall, and that if we are not willing to look at them, they might really hurt us.